Discipline: Spanking

[KSUViolet06]

There are sometimes situations where you can't just go home or leave. Example: you cannot get a sitter every single time you need to leave the house to run an errand, like go to the store and get milk.

I think that automatically leaving a situation when a kid misbehaves can lead them to think that THEY make the decisions about where mom and dad go.

Like, a 5-year-old is more than capable of realizing that "if i don't want to be in the grocery store right now, all I have to do is act up, and then we get to leave."

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

There are sometimes situations where you can't just go home or leave. Example: you cannot get a sitter every single time you need to leave the house to run an errand, like go to the store and get milk.

I think that automatically leaving a situation when a kid misbehaves can lead them to think that THEY make the decisions about where mom and dad go.

Like, a 5-year-old is more than capable of realizing that "if i don't want to be in the grocery store right now, all I have to do is act up, and then we get to leave."

Yep and I know kids (including some teens) who act like fools when they don't want to be someplace. That's the best time to find a way to discipline them so they learn that they aren't in charge.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I think that automatically leaving a situation when a kid misbehaves can lead them to think that THEY make the decisions about where mom and dad go.

Like, a 5-year-old is more than capable of realizing that "if i don't want to be in the grocery store right now, all I have to do is act up, and then we get to leave."

I agree, but I think it depends on the context of the kid misbehaving. In my experience, kid usually wants to be at the store or the restaurant so leaving is a reasonable response if possible, and is more of a punishment than caving to the tantrum. I know people who order their food and to go boxes at the same time, so if kid(s) pitches a fit, they pack up and go.

Just like spanking's not always the answer, the pick up and leave isn't either, but I think both can be in a parent's tool box.

[SusySorostitute]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

I agree, but I think it depends on the context of the kid misbehaving. In my experience, kid usually wants to be at the store or the restaurant so leaving is a reasonable response if possible, and is more of a punishment than caving to the tantrum. I know people who order their food and to go boxes at the same time, so if kid(s) pitches a fit, they pack up and go.

Just like spanking's not always the answer, the pick up and leave isn't either, but I think both can be in a parent's tool box.

Did your parents only take you to Toys R Us? I don't know too many kids who are keen on stores, getting dragged around on errands is like the prime time to act up.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by SusySorostitute

Did your parents only take you to Toys R Us? I don't know too many kids who are keen on stores, getting dragged around on errands is like the prime time to act up.

No, most of the time I've seen the kid wants a toy or a treat, often from the check out line. S/he's not trying to get out of shopping, but trying to get mommy or daddy to give in on the candy. Hence removal from the store is effective.

[SusySorostitute]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

No, most of the time I've seen the kid wants a toy or a treat, often from the check out line. S/he's not trying to get out of shopping, but trying to get mommy or daddy to give in on the candy. Hence removal from the store is effective.

If they're in the check out line lets hope they will be leaving soon anyways!

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I remember when grocery stores began having candy/chips/toys-free check out lines so kids won't ask for stuff. I guess not every parent was able to get their kid to adhere to the "don't ask for anything" rule.

No parent nor kid is perfect.

Originally Posted by SusySorostitute

If they're in the check out line lets hope they will be leaving soon anyways!

I've seen people, regretfully, walk out while they're in the line, and say that they'll be back to pay for it. And I've seen parents stick it out, not giving in to the 'i want candy" or whatever. I usually figure the parents who stick it out can't afford the time/transportation to come back later or alone or just figure their kid can deal with it and they'll be out of everyone else's hair soon anyway.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

No parent nor kid is perfect.

Did you know that BP spilled some oil?

[SusySorostitute]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

No parent nor kid is perfect.



I've seen people, regretfully, walk out while they're in the line, and say that they'll be back to pay for it. And I've seen parents stick it out, not giving in to the 'i want candy" or whatever. I usually figure the parents who stick it out can't afford the time/transportation to come back later or alone or just figure their kid can deal with it and they'll be out of everyone else's hair soon anyway.

Wow, I have never see that and I'm surprised stores will adhere to the honor system like that. I wouldn't blame any parent who sticks to the latter. I do not like parents who let their children act up in public, but at the same time, some people are just so intolerant of kids in public, I wonder if they realize that they were kids once too (and that is not directed at you DroleFille).