Would you get married quickly if you had no doubts?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I know 55 year olds who have no clue about life, but what's your point?

I would still trust the average 36 year old to have more of a clue about what they wanted than an 18 year old.

Well, BluPhire has a good point.

If the 36 year old you're talking about looks longingly at every baby she sees and marries the first guy that asks her - even though none of her friends understand what she sees in him - that means the clock's a-ticking and that's the only reason she's getting married, and it's the WRONG reason. Babies should come about because two people love each other, not because they're an item on the checklist of life that you fear you have forgotten.

I'm not in love right now, and while I do have one of those "ticking clocks" I can't think of anything more repugnant than if I would wake up tomorrow pregnant. Other women in my position are running around trying to get fertilized by someone, anyone, under the sun, even if they'd be raising the baby alone. They're thinking of themselves, not the life they're creating.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Well, BluPhire has a good point.

If the 36 year old you're talking about looks longingly at every baby she sees and marries the first guy that asks her - even though none of her friends understand what she sees in him - that means the clock's a-ticking and that's the only reason she's getting married, and it's the WRONG reason. Babies should come about because two people love each other, not because they're an item on the checklist of life that you fear you have forgotten.

I'm not in love right now, and while I do have one of those "ticking clocks" I can't think of anything more repugnant than if I would wake up tomorrow pregnant. Other women in my position are running around trying to get fertilized by someone, anyone, under the sun, even if they'd be raising the baby alone. They're thinking of themselves, not the life they're creating.

Everyone knows "exceptions" to this rule, the baby-hungry 40-year old or the exceptionally mature teenager, but remember, they are the exceptions and not the rule. Generally, I'd STILL trust someone in their 30s to make a better decision about marriage than someone just out of high school.

We can get bogged down in the "exceptions," but that doesn't really help anyone.