General Advice

[Janieladie]

Should you mention your legacy status to the girl rushing you, or should you expect her to bring it up?

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Janieladie

Should you mention your legacy status to the girl rushing you, or should you expect her to bring it up?

I wouldn't bring it up unless you're far along in the process and want to really let them know that it means something to you or let a chapter know that you aren't letting your legacy status color your decision process if you want to join a chapter that is not your legacy chapter. I think for a lot of collegians, having PNMs harp on their legacy status can be off putting. They know that you are a legacy. You want them to want you for you, not your family member.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I wouldn't bring it up unless you're far along in the process and want to really let them know that it means something to you or let a chapter know that you aren't letting your legacy status color your decision process if you want to join a chapter that is not your legacy chapter. I think for a lot of collegians, having PNMs harp on their legacy status can be off putting. They know that you are a legacy. You want them to want you for you, not your family member.

Exactly. Your legacy status will be noted on your rec. It's ok to mention if it flows naturally into the conversation for those above reasons. Also, if asked why you became interested in joining a sorority, you can talk about your legacy relative.

[PNM1526]

Hi all! I'm rushing this fall at a large southern state school and had a quick question. My high school activities, while I had some cooler ones like student council, were mostly activities that are perceived as "dorky". I'm not a nerd, but I'm sure it sounds like I am from my recruitment application (and maybe rec letters, too). I was curious as to if I'll be judged by the sororities because of this. I know that if a group doesn't accept me for things like that, then I don't want to be a part of that group and that sisters have many different interests and activities, but I'm curious. Any thoughts would be appreciated!

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by PNM1526

Hi all! I'm rushing this fall at a large southern state school and had a quick question. My high school activities, while I had some cooler ones like student council, were mostly activities that are perceived as "dorky". I'm not a nerd, but I'm sure it sounds like I am from my recruitment application (and maybe rec letters, too). I was curious as to if I'll be judged by the sororities because of this. I know that if a group doesn't accept me for things like that, then I don't want to be a part of that group and that sisters have many different interests and activities, but I'm curious. Any thoughts would be appreciated!

You'd be surprised how many sorority women were mathletes or in marching band in high school...

[PNM1526]

Haha, you got me! I'm both of those.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by PNM1526

Hi all! I'm rushing this fall at a large southern state school and had a quick question. My high school activities, while I had some cooler ones like student council, were mostly activities that are perceived as "dorky". I'm not a nerd, but I'm sure it sounds like I am from my recruitment application (and maybe rec letters, too). I was curious as to if I'll be judged by the sororities because of this. I know that if a group doesn't accept me for things like that, then I don't want to be a part of that group and that sisters have many different interests and activities, but I'm curious. Any thoughts would be appreciated!

Not every PNM is a girl who was student council president, cheerleader or involved other perceived "cool kid activity." PNMs have a variety of activities and interests, and sororities know that. I wouldn't omit activities just because you don't think they're "cool ones."