Cheating Men

[optimizm17]

Honestly, I wouldn't want to know if my man cheated on me. However, this is only true under certain circumstances.
1. It was a ONE time ONLY thing

2. He is truly and sincerely sorry and there is a 0% chance that it will happen againg

3. I will never find out (if it was with someone I knew and/or the chances of me finding out are high, he might as well tell me first, otherwise he can keep it to himself)

The reason why I say this is because if I am with someone and we have a lot together and our relationship is solid outside of this indiscretion I would probably want to work on the relationship. But, I know myself. I am not secure enough yet in my womanhood where I can get past something like cheating. If I found out something like that I would be a pure mess. We could try to work on our relationship, but there is no way it could be repairable. I would want it to work, but I am not big enough of a woman not to think about it or bring it up on occasion. So the incident would be better unsaid if conditions 1-3 could be met. Don't get me wrong I think cheating is wrong, awful, and selfish. However, depending on the situation I would be willing to forgive. This isn't something I would tell my man/boyfriend/husband (I am not going to give anyone a license to cheat on me) but, I would be secretly thinking "if i never know we can be happy". Now if it were a full blown affair (i.e. meeting someone every tuesday at the Holiday Inn) I would want to know, so I can drop him like a hat. I know what I think goes against the grain and I sometimes feel like I shouldn't think like this, but it is the honest truth.