Sorry everyone, I know this is a really really old topic, but I'm at work and insanely bored, so I went back and was skimming through all the old threads when I found this one...anyway, you all made me cry! My real big sister has been awful, she's what I like to call a "little hunter," the type to get close to new members just so she can expand her branch. The only reason I picked her is I couldn't pick between two other sisters, and everytime I tried to ask people for advice, they'd go on and on about how important it is and basically tried to get me to pick them. So I was worried the one I didn't pick would be upset, or even worse, that they'd be mad at each other, so I picked someone else entirely. We were kind of close at the time, but she has since been spreading stuff behind my back, and every time I have run for a position in the chapter, she'd either tell people I wouldn't be good or help the person running against me. Plus she turned our whole chapter in for alcohol violations that never occurred (check out the AXO forum for the full story..).
Anyway, what made me cry is that I was so glad to see I wasn't alone in wishing I could go back and choose my big again. After a whole bunch of heinous actions by my big, one of the two that I couldn't choose between in the first place adopted me (she just graduated and never had a little) and I don't know what I'm gonna do without her around next year. Trouble is, the rest of the chapter found out and I've gotten a million lectures from various people in the chapter (many of whom don't even talk to their bigs) about how cruel I'm being and how I'm completely violating the big and little sister bond (even though my "real" big blocked my e-mail address and IM name so I couldn't talk to her - she lives off-campus now). My twin even started in on me about how mean it was of me to have an "adopted big." And I'll admit, at first I just wanted to hurt my big like she hurt me, but that was maybe for the first second, and then I realized how my adopted big has ALWAYS been there for me no matter what and I was really sad that I didn't pick her in the first place. Anyway, sorry again about re-opening this thread, but I figured if anyone would understand that I love my adopted big and it really doesn't have anything to do with hurting my "real big" anymore, it'd be all of you, since my own sisters don't seem to get it.
Thanks for listening,
Liz
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