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Originally Posted by RJG728
Well just to update some of you guys, I got my bid last night at the new fraternity and am currently a pledge. One of six for Spring Quarter. I'm very excited about the situation, and feel like I'm in the best spot for me.
It seems everything works out for a reason. I've come to the conclusion that while I have nothing bad to say about the guys at the old house, that maybe it was fate that led to my mess up and led me to my new house.
Reason being that yesterday as I walked to my new fraternity's house, I ran into a guy from the old fraternity. I told him I was checking out the new fraternity, that I hope everyone else is doing good, and that it sucks everything worked out the way it did. Basically, he then gave me a guilt trip, told me that everyone in the old house hates me, and discouraged the fact that I actually looked somewhere else.
I told him that I messed up and that it sucks. I got the boot from their fraternity, I got exiled from all my friends in that house, I had to deal with medical bills, and to punish myself from my actions I told myself I wouldn't rush anywhere else in the Winter. I took full responsibility in the report they sent to their nationals, and I told their insurance that it was my fault so I wouldn't be suing or asking for help with any medical bills.
They got in trouble for the way they handled the situation. Individuals who got into trouble admitted to underage drinking, and suppling me with alcohol. They can't blame me for pushing it too far considering that I was drinking with them, and the person who drew on me can only blame himself. They called the cops on themselves, and then were cool with me when it was my ass that was on the line, but when they got punishments it was like we never knew each other.
So it's good now to hopefully close that chapter, and start a new one with a group of guys who I could see myself really growing with. A couple of more guys know about the story, and just understand everything that happened. They joke with me to not let it happen again, but say that it happens and that they know my intentions as a person are always good. I also found out the old fraternity has issues like picking fights, and taking weapons to other fraternity houses. I'm glad I'm out of that situation and in a new, more positive one.
No bad feelings towards anyone. It's just life. Well thanks to everyone who responded in here. Maybe I'll update it when I become a brother! Spring is going to be great. I think I can already tell how great a decision this is going to be.
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Seriously, you need to just END it. Stop talking about it. You don't have to ignore the brothers from the first fraternity, but keep it casual. You have to move on. If there are hard feelings, they won't go away if you keep trying to explain things.
Are you still talking about it to the new fraternity? Informing people that didn't already know??
Look at what's in front of you, not behind you. Otherwise, your new fraternity may question whether they were right to choose you. You have to MOVE ON.
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