THIRD times a charm?

[PinkSugar]

Thanks! I know the first time I was shy, but the second time I did really well, there were no awkward pauses in conversation and my gpa is 3.3. The girls in my top choice seemed interrested in me so I thought that I would at least get invited back to pref. night. I really would like to be apart of it all.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by PinkSugar

Thanks! I know the first time I was shy, but the second time I did really well, there were no awkward pauses in conversation and my gpa is 3.3. The girls in my top choice seemed interrested in me so I thought that I would at least get invited back to pref. night. I really would like to be apart of it all.

I understand wanting to be part of it, but unfortunately they may not be interested in you.

I mean, if other chapters are holding informal, by all means go. Just be aware that if a chapter cut you during formal, they may not extend you a bid.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by PinkSugar

Thanks! I know the first time I was shy, but the second time I did really well, there were no awkward pauses in conversation and my gpa is 3.3. The girls in my top choice seemed interrested in me so I thought that I would at least get invited back to pref. night. I really would like to be apart of it all.

Try to be critical of yourself to figure out what may have gone wrong. Are you active on campus? Do you know anyone in the Greek community? Was your appearance up to par with the other PNMs around you? I think that rushing the third time is a difficult proposition. For every great outcome like the one TriDLove had, there is a lot of heartache. Think about what conversations you had during recruitment. There were no awkward pauses, but what did you actually talk about? There has to be a reason why you would have been released prior to preference round twice. I know that is hard to hear, but if you don't try to identify this issue and correct it, a third attempt will likely end the same way as the first two.

It's like when I tried out for cheerleader in middle school. I didn't get picked in 6th or 7th grade. I was one of only two girls not picked in the 6th grade, and the only girl not picked in the 7th grade. Yeah, it sucked. I really wanted to be a cheerleader, though. So, I listened to advice. Realized that I really did do somethings wrong, like making faces walking away from the court during my try-out. I also didn't know how to do a cartwheel. Before I tried out in 8th grade, I learned how to do some tricks, I got some confidence so that I wouldn't act embarrassed walking off the court, and I worked with the cheerleading coach on some new cheers. I made the team that year and had a great time! No one believes I was a cheerleader now days...I don't seem the type, but I loved it!

It sounds like you really want this to happen, but a third attempt is also burdened by the fact that you are farther from Freshman status, as well. I wish you luck, but I hope you go into it with a plan.