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AKA2D '91 · #91 02-12-2002, 02:08 AM

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Originally posted by fatto
HELL NO!!!

I didn't think so!

OA: NO COMMENT!

Check what out?

#2 Cool Breeze · #92 02-12-2002, 05:58 PM

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Originally posted by Sexy Mocha
LOL! ThatGirl, your points are INDEED valid! If ever the truth was told, you just told it. Talk about putting on airs!! I think that's why I can't stay in a good relationship for more than a few months! I'm a gemini (moody, split personality, etc.), anyway, when I meet a guy...of course I don't want him to see this side of me (not yet anyway), so I just act as sweet as a peach pie...then after a couple of weeks, my true self emerges and they have the nerve to trip They're all like "Dam girl! What happened to that nice, sweet young lady I met?!?" Then my head turns 360 degrees (think Exorcist) and I say " She's no longer here" Your post has got me to thinking, maybe if I keep it real from the beginning....hmmmmm.

Why not? Perhaps if he saw that side of you first then you/you all would either not waste time and go seperate ways from jump or really dig that.... it's best to know what a person is getting into so that he/she can either accept it or keep rollin.. saves a lot of time.energy, and pain....ya dig!! I'm a gemini and I don't hide the fact that I can be moody.... most times, it's one of my biggest attributes, it adds flavor/spice to the relationship...

ENDROAD · #93 02-24-2002, 01:05 PM

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Originally posted by tickledpink
*...be God-fearing.

*...be a very good listener. She listens to her man express his feelings & talk about his day because she understands that it's tough to try to "carry the weight of the world" on his shoulders.

*...be able to express her concerns without making her man feel like anything less than a man.

*...be an excellent mother. Her man knows that their children will be well-educated (in book and common sense) because of her. She is someone that he hopes his daughter will grow up to be like.

*...is self confident and understands that she does not need a man to define who she is. If she's learned this love and appreciation of herself, she'll be able to make a healthy contribution to a relationship.

*...not be bitter. Although she's suffered the wrath of the dog, she's completely healed from that relationship, understands that every man is not the same, and will not punish every brother she meets for the stupidity of one.

*...have a brain and use it well. She's no body's fool.

*...will have her man's back through thick and thin. When all the money's gone and his "boys" don't come around anymore, she's still there and she still loves him.

Now that was an answer. I wake up every moring trying to be this kind of REAL woman.

Jamal5000 · #94 03-04-2002, 12:44 AM

...embody 1 Timothy 2: 9-10 and 1 Peter 3:3-6.

Have a great week everyone!

Blue_Passion_01 · #95 03-06-2002, 12:24 PM

A real good woman would be down for her man through thick and thin. A good woman would do what it takes to keep the fire and desire. A real good woman would be independane and depend on no one but herself. A real good woman would never use the "exclusive" we but the inclusive "we" when it comes down to her relationship. A real good woman is God-fearing, charasmatic, emotion, down-to-earth, honest, true, motivated, and sincere.

That is what a real good woman is to me.....

What do you think?

BigBoy · #96 04-08-2002, 02:25 AM

Work hard for God, herself and then her family.

ivygirl · #97 04-16-2002, 12:21 PM

ALPHA KAPPA ALPHA WOMAN

I agree with sister a real woman is a woman of character

The Original Ape · #98 04-16-2002, 12:55 PM

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91

What if what she suspects is true? Is she NOT to give up on him?

If what she suspects is true, you can't give up what aint yours! sorry

korkscru · #99 04-18-2002, 07:32 PM

Wow, this topic is really deep. I just wish that I had responded sooner. What was the question again? Oh yeah...I don't think that the question is so much what makes a good woman (or man, for that matter). The question is more of what makes a good relationship? I've found that many of my friends (who are not married) tend to have this kind of FANTASY about the PERFECT brother whisking them away into the sunset and they live happily ever after. Let me just tell you, in case you don't know,... IT DON'T WORK LIKE THAT!!!! And I just CAN'T express that enough. BOTH parties in a relationship are coming with BAGGAGE, ISSUES, HABITS,... and anything else that you can think of. I've said this before and now I'm saying it again, we (men and women) haveto be willing to see the POTENTIAL in a possible mate. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS THE PERFECT MATE!!! I think that in MANY cases, people are not single because they WANT to be or because they're not meeting the RIGHT people, but because they place their expectations TOOOOO high or they just aren't ready for a REAL commitment. We must remember that EVERYONE has STUFF that they are going to take into a relationship. The REAL test is looking BEYOND the trivial stuff (such as his toenails are too long or she snorts when she eats or he bites the fork when he eats, or something like that).

The REAL test is if you are willing to stick with that person and HELP them (SHOW that person that you realize that they have been hurt, but YOU'RE different and willing to SHOW them the RIGHT way that they should be treated). Now this does not mean putting up with "mess" such as excessive cheating or physical abuse. In a lot of cases, it's the LITTLE things that mess up a relationship. I've been with my hubby for almost 11 years and we've grown...TOGETHER. Just when I think that I want to get on my high horse and complain about putting up with HIM, I always remember that he's in this thing too. And, on the same token, HE has to deal with ME (and ALL of my "stuff"). A good woman or man is someone who realizes a relationship is all about what you WANT it to be. They realize that it's about GIVE and TAKE. Forget that 50-50 jazz. It's not going to be that way ALL of the time. Some days you're going to be giving 70 and he/she is going to be giving 30. Some days he/she is going to be giving 80 and YOU'LL be giving 20. And then there will be days when you both will be giving 50. Believe me. I KNOW what I'm talking about. I feel that I have a WONDERFUL marriage (most of the time it doesn't seem as if my husband and I are married). BUT... it took a WHOLE LOT of molding, shaping, cultivating, marinating, conversating, eliminating in order for us to get to even THIS point. We were friends FIRST and we had (and STILL have) a mutual understanding that while we realize that we are ONE in this marriage, we're STILL individuals.

In a nutshell, it's all about what YOU think that a relationship should be along with what the other person wants it to be. And I've found that many people have a FALSE sense of what it means to have a GOOD woman or man.

thesweetestone · #**100** 04-24-2002, 03:34 AM

A Real woman would be herself and dare everyone to except that.

Japera1920 · #**101** 04-24-2002, 04:46 PM

This topic is hot and heavy...I am a old fashion girl with modern ways. A real woman, would stand by her man through thick and thin. A real woman will help her man up, when he is down at his low ponit. A real woman will encourage her man to be the best that he can be.

A real woman will stay true to herself and others alike. A real woman will be herself. A real woman wil love her herself inside and out. A real woman woulld take her time and not rush. (get my hint).

lovelyivy84 · #**102** 04-24-2002, 05:32 PM

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Originally posted by thesweetestone
A Real woman would be herself and dare everyone to except that.

I like that one!

sphinxpoet · #**103** 04-24-2002, 11:55 PM

Understands she is not perfect and only one that can make her happy is herself and is faithful her creeds.

Sphinxpoet

msbrowneyz · #**104** 05-08-2002, 02:18 PM

....let you take out her extensions and then give her a touch up!

It doesn't get more real than that.

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