A unique and kind of sad recruit story - Page 7

DrPhil · #1 01-21-2010, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by ellebud

Ok, my two cents: As a mother of three kids I understand stress. I know sadness and having relatives (parents and grandparents) die. As a cancer survivor I understand the toll that illness plays on your body and soul BUT...how many times (sometimes with a good or bad response) has a sister, during Pref, talked about how her sisters helped her through the tough times in life? Heck, my sisters helped me (as an adult) get through cancer treatment. This is a story, assuming that all is true, of how not to grow up, how the OP failed sisterhood, and the failure to grow as a person by outgrowing the slings and arrows of high school.

Life is filled with what ifs. I think that many of us, at a certain age, certainly say that more than a teenager or young adult. But it is what you do with your ruminations that proves your metal as an adult. A sister rolled her eyes at you during recruitment? Maybe she did, maybe she didn't. So what? That might give you pause, but it shouldn't rule your life. You didn't like your sorority? Make it better. You had problems with your sisters? Try and find one or two you do like and see how the situation improves. Can't find ANY sisters that you are compatible with? Look homeward angel.

This thread does have educational value in the sense that I compared it to my daughter's recent recruitment. Both girls were ambivelent about the process. Both girls (and all girls going through) were afraid of rejection. Both had second thoughts (ok..mine for 5 seconds) about joining. The difference? My daughter has made friends and loves her house. She stuck it out during the first days of change, a change which is difficult for everyone. And my daughter (obnoxious bragging, I'm sorry) hasn't blamed anyone for what didn't happen.

Quoted for awesomeness.

ellebud · #2 01-21-2010, 09:17 PM

Dr. Phil:

Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate them.

Ellebud

DrPhil · #3 01-21-2010, 09:57 PM

Christopher Meloni is my boo but I've seen better photos.

lauralaylin · #4 01-21-2010, 10:19 PM

I think I was involved somehow during this recruitment. What year was it? I'm guessing about 2003? I vaguely remember the 3 days of round 1 I think.

homeward*bound · #5 01-21-2010, 11:20 PM

Ellebud, even though we're about the same age, I really want you to adopt me.

ADPiTigergurl · #6 01-22-2010, 01:07 AM

yeah train wreck!!! but i do possiblybelieve the part about ADPi "Praying" the first night... I found a song in our song book entitled Sisterhood Prayer, its definately a song but is sorta prayerish and ends in AMEN... and is listed a song to be used during early recruitment... not quite sure why honestloy though

ellebud · #7 01-22-2010, 01:55 AM

homeward*bound: Anytime you're in socal drop on by! Thank you so much for your kind words. And since my children have made it totally clear that we (husband and I) somehow blunder through life, with THEIR guidance to help us (if you remember my daughter's recruitment thread), thank you.

(And yes, I am fully aware that we do know...most of the time...what we are doing.

)

homeward*bound · #8 01-22-2010, 04:38 PM

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Originally Posted by ellebud

homeward*bound: Anytime you're in socal drop on by! Thank you so much for your kind words. And since my children have made it totally clear that we (husband and I) somehow blunder through life, with THEIR guidance to help us (if you remember my daughter's recruitment thread), thank you.

(And yes, I am fully aware that we do know...most of the time...what we are doing.

)

Will do! Although I have a feeling the SoCal stores will never recover from the invasion of the black belt shopping duo!

AZTheta · #9 01-22-2010, 05:10 PM

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Originally Posted by AzTheta

Here's what I 've been thinking since this thread began:

"The lady doth protest too much, methinks"

Hamlet Act 3, scene 2, 222–230

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Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

Omit the word "doth" and you have a solid argument

Stanleypeep, so you agree with me that you are protesting too much? nevermind.

hmm...

Stanleypeep · #10 01-22-2010, 05:19 PM

I don't know your background, but...it seems as though you may not know exactly all of the context, or potential interpretations of the quote.

Stanleypeep · #11 01-22-2010, 01:24 PM

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in a pledge class with people who treated you badly

For the record no one in my house or pledge class treated me poorly at all. That's actually the opposite of what I was essentially trying to convey.

The reason I quoted this story as sad was because at the time, I was too insecure to overcome these issues and become Greek. But no matter whether I did or not, the girls still supported me no matter what. I COULD have gained more from that if I had chosen to take advantage of it, but I didn't. This is a story for potential PNM's that have doubts to basically say, if you have those doubts, here's why you may regret them. Not looking for sympathy because I am (even though I guarantee no one believes this nor at this point does it matter) way past it. But I encourage girls with doubts to be stronger people, like the women they admire, the women I admired.

KSUViolet06 · #12 01-22-2010, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

The reason I quoted this story as sad was because at the time, I was too insecure to overcome these issues and become Greek. But no matter whether I did or not, the girls still supported me no matter what. I COULD have gained more from that if I had chosen to take advantage of it, but I didn't. This is a story for potential PNM's that have doubts to basically say, if you have those doubts, here's why you may regret them. Not looking for sympathy because I am (even though I guarantee no one believes this nor at this point does it matter) way past it. But I encourage girls with doubts to be stronger people, like the women they admire, the women I admired.

You could very well have made this point without throwing shade on the chapters at your school, which is why I don't buy this.

dukemama · #13 01-22-2010, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

Not looking for sympathy because I am (even though I guarantee no one believes this nor at this point does it matter) way past it.

There ya go.

The more you respond to what everyone is saying the deeper the hole you're digging yourself.

Stanleypeep · #14 01-22-2010, 01:57 PM

In any case,

I still stand by the Greek system if nowhere else but at URI. I would hope that you would want your PNM's to value honesty and not be two-faced. Frankly, I'd rather have someone roll their eyes at me than be sweet as pie but talk about you behind your back. (Heh, talk about unresolved dirty laundry)

I still know that that my story is a Greek story AND a life story as I learned from it myself. I'll always know that even though the entire experience had its ups and downs, I came out of it with a still positive opinion of my school's Greek system and the members within them.

I think your responses are now standing for themselves. Regardless, I still love all of my girls, sisters or not for being who they are and respecting me for who I am. That speaks volumes in my eyes, if not in yours.

AnotherKD · #15 01-22-2010, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

I'll always know that even though the entire experience had its ups and downs, I came out of it with a still positive opinion of my school's Greek system and the members within them.

Then stop bashing the houses. You haven't had one consistent thing to say, from what I can see.