does being greek help you to find relationships?

[NoToGovtHealth]

whats up guys? ive been lurking here for a while, and researching a little bit about going greek. i am a student at a state school with a greek system that makes up the minority of the population -- im a freshman, and i really dont feel like i fit in here at all like i did in high school. i have less friends, less people that i can really relate to, and worst of all, less prospects when it comes to dating. i probably should have gone to a larger, i guess you could say more "elite" institution, but i am unable to transfer schools (for reasons i wont go into here).

i found the greek system at the beginning of the year, and socially, the fraternity ive been hanging out with the most has been nothing great -- a real diamond in the rough i guess you could say. im gonna rush in the spring for sure, and if i get a bid i think it will be very beneficial to me socially. the one question i have though, is how beneficial? did many of you find your SOs through the greek system? did you find many friends in general, or was it limited to just your house?

thanks a lot

[KSUViolet06]

If you are someone who has a hard time making friends, NO fraternity is not going to magically bring those to you. It's "people skills" that make friends.

Personally, I was already active in another club when I joined a sorority, so I already had friends. Being Greek did introduce me to many people I hadn't met, but it was my interactions with them and such that made them my friends.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by NoToGovtHealth

whats up guys? ive been lurking here for a while, and researching a little bit about going greek. i am a student at a state school with a greek system that makes up the minority of the population -- im a freshman, and i really dont feel like i fit in here at all like i did in high school. i have less friends, less people that i can really relate to, and worst of all, less prospects when it comes to dating. i probably should have gone to a larger, i guess you could say more "elite" institution, but i am unable to transfer schools (for reasons i wont go into here).

i found the greek system at the beginning of the year, and socially, the fraternity ive been hanging out with the most has been nothing great -- a real diamond in the rough i guess you could say. im gonna rush in the spring for sure, and if i get a bid i think it will be very beneficial to me socially. the one question i have though, is how beneficial? did many of you find your SOs through the greek system? did you find many friends in general, or was it limited to just your house?

thanks a lot

None of this post makes any sense.

You are hanging out with a fraternity that you say is "nothing great". If you think so lowly of them, why are you hanging out there? You're bashing a group with whom you plan to rush.

From your post, your primary goal is to get a higher social standing on campus and presumably to make you more appealing to women. I can assure you that this type of personal agenda is usually pretty transparent, and very off-putting. Sure, we join these organizations for many reasons, but going into it with the attitude of "what can they do for me?" is the wrong approach.

As for blaming your lack of social success on the school's "less-than-elite" status, that's a lame excuse. Life is what you make of it.

[33girl]

I don't think anything will improve your number/quality of relationships if you keep acting like a dick.

[NoToGovtHealth]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

None of this post makes any sense.

You are hanging out with a fraternity that you say is "nothing great". If you think so lowly of them, why are you hanging out there? You're bashing a group with whom you plan to rush.

From your post, your primary goal is to get a higher social standing on campus and presumably to make you more appealing to women. I can assure you that this type of personal agenda is usually pretty transparent, and very off-putting. Sure, we join these organizations for many reasons, but going into it with the attitude of "what can they do for me?" is the wrong approach.

As for blaming your lack of social success on the school's "less-than-elite" status, that's a lame excuse. Life is what you make of it.

lol, that was just a typo. i meant "nothing but great." my bad. i definitely wouldnt join and pay all those dues to anything that wasnt great.

ordinarily i dont struggle socially, or atleast i didnt before. but im in a new environment filled with people that im just not used to being around. i dont wanna go into too much detail about it, but maybe i came across wrong when i said it "wasn't elite enough." i was just trying to point out that its not a big sec school or something like i know a lot of you are probably at.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by NoToGovtHealth

its not a big sec school or something like i know a lot of you are probably at.

Honestly, I'd say that most of GC didn't go an SEC school.

[Xanthus]

Originally Posted by NoToGovtHealth

whats up guys? ive been lurking here for a while, and researching a little bit about going greek. i am a student at a state school with a greek system that makes up the minority of the population -- im a freshman, and i really dont feel like i fit in here at all like i did in high school. i have less friends, less people that i can really relate to, and worst of all, less prospects when it comes to dating. i probably should have gone to a larger, i guess you could say more "elite" institution, but i am unable to transfer schools (for reasons i wont go into here).

i found the greek system at the beginning of the year, and socially, the fraternity ive been hanging out with the most has been nothing great -- a real diamond in the rough i guess you could say. im gonna rush in the spring for sure, and if i get a bid i think it will be very beneficial to me socially. the one question i have though, is how beneficial? did many of you find your SOs through the greek system? did you find many friends in general, or was it limited to just your house?

thanks a lot

Give me one reason why you're having a hard time getting a chick without going greek. If you can't get chicks outside of being greek, you won't inside either. Grow some balls and have fun dude.

[MysticCat]

Interesting screen name, OP.

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Honestly, I'd say that most of GC didn't go an SEC school.

Thank goodness!

I kid, I kid!

Originally Posted by Xanthus

Give me one reason why you're having a hard time getting a chick without going greek. If you can't get chicks outside of being greek, you won't inside either. Grow some balls and have fun dude.

Well, I see you're not letting your impending fatherhood foster any inconvenient maturity.

[Xanthus]

^^^I see you're still being the same fucktard you always have been by continuing to throw old unnecessary shit in my face. Grow up dipshit.

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

^^^I see you're still being the same fucktard you always have been by continuing to throw old unnecessary shit in my face. Grow up dipshit.

Yet you're the one acting like an immature horny teenager. Interesting choice of words.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

^^^I see you're still being the same fucktard you always have been by continuing to throw old unnecessary shit in my face. Grow up dipshit.

I did grow up. Years ago. That's why I don't talk about "getting chicks" anymore.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

I did grow up. Years ago. That's why I don't talk about "getting chicks" anymore.

lol lol
Hilarious!

[XAntoftheSkyX]

To quote the movie Cool Runnings, OP: "If you're not enough without it, you'll never be enough with it."

[MattHakor]

If you really have problems with girls try asking the guys in the fraternity to help you out. I'll admit it I'm not the best with girls but one of my buddies is helping me out and its working. The thing is he is helping with issues that concern my own self. You need to conquer the self before you will get anywhere in relationships.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

I did grow up. Years ago. That's why I don't talk about "getting chicks" anymore.

I'm sure your wife appreciates that, too.