University of Texas recruitment question

[helimom]

Thanks guys for the thoughtful responses! Way to go 33girl on guessing where my screen name came from. Hey, I'm not a helicopter mom for nothing. I'm still not sure what to do. As many pointed out, it's really not my decision. My daughter will have to make up her own mind. I will say this though. I do believe that sorority life is just almost important as a college education. I learned very much from pledging and becoming an active. I learned how to get along with others, how to budget my time, how to make connections. All of these skills have helped me in my professional life, almost as much as my education. And as for all of those who tried to downplay the importance of Greek life, who are we trying to fool? Obviously Greek life is very, very important to us. Why else would we be frequenting a site that is dedicated strictly to Greek life so many years after we were actives?

[Zillini]

Originally Posted by helimom

Thanks guys for the thoughtful responses! Way to go 33girl on guessing where my screen name came from. Hey, I'm not a helicopter mom for nothing. I'm still not sure what to do. As many pointed out, it's really not my decision. My daughter will have to make up her own mind. I will say this though. I do believe that sorority life is just almost important as a college education. I learned very much from pledging and becoming an active. I learned how to get along with others, how to budget my time, how to make connections. All of these skills have helped me in my professional life, almost as much as my education. And as for all of those who tried to downplay the importance of Greek life, who are we trying to fool? Obviously Greek life is very, very important to us. Why else would we be frequenting a site that is dedicated strictly to Greek life so many years after we were actives?

I'm not going to disagree with the importance of the skills you listed, but they can be acquired elsewhwhere. Greek life does not have a monopoly on these.

How about these skills to teach your daughter? Don't not try something because it might be difficult. You're thinking about discouraging your daughter from going to an excellent school because Recruitment is very competitive. If she has a less than ideal experience, then dealing with disappointment in a mature way is also a valuable life skill that a young adult needs to learn.

[DubaiSis]

Here's my utterly useless 2 cents. Your concern about a good match is a good reason to check out other schools. I went to the biggest school I could and I think that was right for me, but there are some really great schools that are a fraction of the size of UT that also provide an excellent education and would have a bit less stressful Greek recruitment experience.

In the end your daughter could end up choosing UT and that's great, but maybe she should get a list of 5 or 10 schools to consider, make campus visits to a couple and then see what she thinks.