Asking daddy's permission before proposing

[AOII Angel]

I think it's really funny how aggressive people have gotten on both sides of this issue. Everyone is different. My husband didn't ask my father for my hand in marriage. I would have laughed in his face had he, but it never would have occurred to him to ask in the first place although we are both extremely southern. We were both medical school graduates and old enough to make our own decisions. My father and I have a good relationship, but my parents don't get to make my decisions for me, nor do they know enough about my husband or my relationship with him to make asking for their permission worthwhile even after being married to him for 7 years. From my experience, parents (or at least mine) tend to think they know how you should handle your business if they know too much about your business!

[AKA_Monet]

Welp, my husband was reared to the opposite, it was important to him to ask my father for my hand and I obliged him to do so. But then again we eloped, too because we wanted to. Oh well.

[KSigkid]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I think it's really funny how aggressive people have gotten on both sides of this issue. Everyone is different.

Agreed; it depends on the situation, how close the bride is to her parents, etc. I didn't realize people got so fired up about this, haha.

As I said in the other thread, I did talk to my father-in-law (and my mother-in-law) before I proposed. But, he and I are pretty close (he's like a second dad), so it was more to give him a head's up about what was going on. It was more of the "blessing" thing that MC had mentioned than asking for permission.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I think it's really funny how aggressive people have gotten on both sides of this issue.

While I agree that people feel strongly about their own personal situations regarding this issue, I've not seen anything I would call aggressive. See race threads and threads about homeless people for the aggressive comments!

Yes, MC, I think we are around the same age. Perhaps it was my culture (strong Italian heritage in a primarily Italian neighborhood) that makes me say that in my day it was about asking permission. Most girls I knew still went from their dad's house to their husband's house and it truly was asking permission. I have no idea whether my dad was hurt or upset that neither of my husband's asked his permission. I really don't care whether he was or not It never even dawned on me to consider it as a possibility until I read that other thread.