Do you guys judge people by their past Significant Others?

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Originally Posted by James

I kind of have a habit of judging girls I meet by who they used to date, if I know. I have a pretty high opinion of myself and if I find out the guy they dated for a significant length of time was not up to standard, I start wondering if I want to be in that same category. Cause it does kind of group you together. And if she'll date that kind of guy it doesn't bode well for her appreciation of something better.

I have been told by girls that this isn't really fair, although they never really explained why very well. . .

Anyone share this quirk to some degree or can tell me why this would be a bad thing?

What are you basing your standards on? Subjective issues such as appearance or popularity? Objective things like wealth and job status? Religion or race of previous boyfriends? Immoral or unlawful behavior of/with previous boyfriends?

Some people date the same "type" of person over and over, while others date different types of people, choosing their partners based on their unique personality/style/interests/etc.

As for judging someone based on who they have dated before, I guess it depends on what you are judging. I do personally try to associate with people who bring out the best in me and who can be a good influence on me, but I wouldn't automatically refuse to be friends with someone just because they have a friend who I wouldn't necessarily be close with.

I've been married for quite a while so that's the closest analogy I can draw, but if I was still dating, I wouldn't necessarily discount dating someone because I thought that their previous relationship was with someone "lesser" than me.