What To Do for Sons Fraternity

[Kevin]

Donate money. Show up for Parent's day if they have one. If they have a parents' auxiliary, you can join that (this is a rare thing to exist).

Otherwise, don't be THAT parent. Your kids are in college now, they are adults, let them enjoy this without you.

[kddani]

Baked goods!

[KSUViolet06]

Ask what they might need.

Generally speaking, guys always appreciate food (especially the home cooked variety).

[aopirose]

You could also check to see if the chapter has a Mothers' Club or a Parents' Club. These clubs can go a long way in providing chapter support.

Like KSUVilolet said, you could always ask what they need. That's how my MIL got sweet-talked into making customized curtins for the house.

[ree-Xi]

If you are close by, ask them if it would be okay to make something for the house and ask if they would like to pick it up. I wouldn't show up at the house unannounced or uninvited.

If they aren't super close geographically, mail them goody packages, with cookies, candy jars, magazines (you can also buy subscriptions for the house - a gift that keeps on giving and that everyone can enjoy), movie DVDs (or Blueray - whichever player they have), Netflix subscription, video games.

You can also make different packages based on holidays. Halloween goody bags, "Winter holiday" stuff, exam time.

You might also ask the boys what they might like or want. If you have a specific price range, price a few things out and have them choose.

I think it's nice to want to support them, but just let them think it's on their own terms.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

...Netflix subscription...You can also make different packages based on holidays. Halloween goody bags, "Winter holiday" stuff, exam time...

??? And who is going to pick up that DVD, stick it in the mailer and take it to the post office? And choose the next flick?

Seriously...please don't do holiday goodie packages. I can just hear the guys teasing the son about what mom will send next. If you want to take a big box or platter of cookies or something when you visit, great. But don't do it often.

Magazine subscriptions? Maybe to "Bazooms."

Originally Posted by Kevin

Otherwise, don't be THAT parent. Your kids are in college now, they are adults, let them enjoy this without you.

I have to agree. I am a legacy at my chapter and my father practically makes my mother do nothing lol. He understands that I am an adult and SigEp is my thing...

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Kevin

Donate money. Show up for Parent's day if they have one. If they have a parents' auxiliary, you can join that (this is a rare thing to exist).

Otherwise, don't be THAT parent. Your kids are in college now, they are adults, let them enjoy this without you.

Ditto to all. And make sure your sons know they won't be hurting your feelings if they tell you that you are stepping over some boundaries.