Joining a New Chapter

[Titchou]

No, please don't ask that. Just tell the person how much you enjoyed meeting her, talking with her and learning about her wonderful organization. Leave on a positive note...

And yes,you should be advised one way or another...just like in regular recruitment.

[chitown]

I think you should ask as many questions as come to mind, because that will show that you're interested and have really thought out what you want rather than just showing up on a whim. The women interviewing you will be looking for people they think are strong and will make a great foundation for their organization on your particular campus. One of my best friends was in a colonizing group of a chapter and it seems like her experience was a little bit different than what you're going through- there was already an interest group on campus so their chapter participated in a mock formal recruitment process shortly after that school's official recruitment. But I do know that they took a solid amount of juniors and even seniors into the organization.

As for asking what you're looking for, I would not say this. You could stick with the job interview etiquette, maybe ask something like what kind of girls they are looking for, and then talk about how you fill that ideal for them.

[DubaiSis]

Think of it more like dating than a job interview. Asking a question like that would be assertive with an employer but would make you a little stalkery with a date. And frankly, there is no such thing as "a kind of new member" any more. Sororities like diversity. The only fixed issues are grades and pleasant personality. You can definitely tell them YOU'RE interested, but I probably wouldn't ask to be reciprocated on that. They will have rules preventing them from saying anything very concrete. They can't make any promises, even if only inferred.

Joining a colony is a lot of work but I think can offer an even greater sense of unity because this group has nothing to draw on except each other. I say go for it, keep your inquisitive attitude, and have fun! Best of luck.

[blueberrymuffin]

The more I think about it I know you guys are right. I would be unfair to try to pin them down like that. I will just have to see what happens. Another possibility has come up and I am exploring that but it is kind of a long shot. I have been reading some of the recruitment threads and wow, its like some of these girls and their mothers are ready to kill themselves if they don't get their first choice or don't get in at all. Its probably because I am a lot older and have been through some rough times and never thought I would be where I am now that I look at things a little differently. You have all been a big help and I will let you know what happens.

[blueberrymuffin]

I don't want to say what university I am attending or the sorority involved because I have said some things I would rather not be identified with but I did it. I am a new member of the new colony. We got an absolute ton of new members and they all seem to be very nice girls so it looks like the colony is off to a very successful start. When I transferred here I didn't ever think I would ever be in a sorority but here I am wearing sorority letters. Sometimes things really do work out.

[DGTess]

Congratulations!!!!!

[ComradesTrue]

Originally Posted by blueberrymuffin

...but I did it. I am a new member of the new colony. We got an absolute ton of new members and they all seem to be very nice girls so it looks like the colony is off to a very successful start.

Congrats and enjoy!

[summer_gphib]

Congratulations!!