Where are all the Potential PNMs?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by curlygirl18

I was reading through many of the old forums about juniors rushing, so rather than start a whole new thead I though I'd post my question here...

I want to rush as a junior at a smaller school where I know of several juniors who have recieved bids. I did informal recuitment last spring but only rushed 2 out of 6 sororities and didn't get a bid. A hard lesson learned on being open-minded... Anyway my problem is that the second night of recruitment I have tickets for an out of town concert with one of my best friends who goes to another school. I made these plans long before I knew what dates recruitment was this year, not thinking it would be a problem because it's usually held much earlier at my school. I'd feel awful about cancelling these plans because my friend and I have been looking forward to this for months! I know missing recuitment events can put my chances of getting a bid at risk and understand the reasons why. Should I go for it anyway and explain my situation, or just not waste anyone's time?!

Rush is more important than a concert. If you don't agree you shouldn't be rushing.

[curlygirl18]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Rush is more important than a concert. If you don't agree you shouldn't be rushing.

I understand, it's not the concert that's important, it's my best friend for many years who has already made travel arrangements to come in for it. I don't think I could disappoint her and we only see each other a few times a year.

I was just wondering if they'd be understanding of the situation if I decided to go through recruitment. If not, I won't go through, I know being at all the events is important and for good reasons.

[33girl]

If she's that good of a friend, she should understand about rush.

I can't tell from your post if you only *chose* to go to 2 sororities' events, or if there were only 2 sororities holding events. If it was the latter, and you didn't get a bid, the chances are very very very slim that you're going to get one now.

If it was the former, and you blew off the other 4 sororities' events for whatever reason, they're probably not going to be too high on you now to begin with - and missing this fall's events for the concert will not win you any points.

[Zillini]

Originally Posted by curlygirl18

I understand, it's not the concert that's important, it's my best friend for many years who has already made travel arrangements to come in for it. I don't think I could disappoint her and we only see each other a few times a year.

I was just wondering if they'd be understanding of the situation if I decided to go through recruitment. If not, I won't go through, I know being at all the events is important and for good reasons.

One of the unfortunate facts of life as we get older is that sometimes you have to make choices. Only you can decide what is the most important thing for you.

A Chapter should understand why someone misses an event if it is school related. But harsh truth time, skipping out to see a concert won't go over well. That says you aren't even a member yet and are already showing you aren't committed to the responsibilities and time commitments of the Chapter. It won't matter if you hadn't seen your friend in 10 years, all they will remember is you blew off Recruitment for a concert.

[FSUZeta]

if you really want to be a member of a sorority, you will attend recruitment. you are sending the wrong message to the sororities if you ditch recruitment for a concert-no matter how long ago your tickets were purchased. if you miss the second night of recruitment, i doubt that you will have to worry about the third night. not very many pnms who miss an entire night are invited back for another, unless there are extremely extenuating circumstances, and even then, it is at the sorority's discretion.

you could offer your ticket to your friend and let her invite another friend, and then make arrangements to see them during some free time during recruitment.

[GatorGirl19]

yeah i'm missing incubus (for the 2nd time!) for rush. but incubus might come again some other year! and your friend, if she's a good enough friend, should understand! there will always be other concerts, especially in college towns! lol