How much is appearance weighed during rush?

perfectinpurple · #1 07-20-2009, 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by diet coke

On an off-note, so maybe my question can be answered better, I'm a bigger girl. I weigh 170 at 5'9" and have been losing weight since January (successfully have lost 23 pounds, for health reasons). I'm still working out now and plan to continue to lose some weight throughout the rest of summer (hopefully 10 - 15 more pounds). Any help would be appereciated!

OMG!!! I just have to say I think you need a reality check. I do not think you are overweight at all! Just because there is a hollywood ideal of what a sorority girl should look like does not make it true!!!!

I think you'll do great at rush

I wish you luck!!!

KSUViolet06 · #2 07-20-2009, 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by perfectinpurple

I think you'll do great at rush

I wish you luck!!!

Wow, I didn't know that you actually KNOW that person and can vouch for how awesome she is!

Oh wait...

BlueCarnation · #3 07-20-2009, 09:43 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Wow, I didn't know that you actually KNOW that person and can vouch for how awesome she is!

Oh wait...

Wow. And people are wondering why PNMs and others are hesitant to post on here? I think she was just trying to encourage her. Considering the negative view that a lot of people have of Greeks, you would think that that's a good thing.

KSUViolet06 · #4 07-20-2009, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by BlueCarnation

Wow. And people are wondering why PNMs and others are hesitant to post on here? I think she was just trying to encourage her. Considering the negative view that a lot of people have of Greeks, you would think that that's a good thing.

You haven't been around long.

It's ok to encourage other PNMs, but we try to steer clear of:

"OMG you're soo going to get a bid!"

"I know you're going to do sooo well at rush!"

and things like that.

Why?

Because we do not know if that's the case.

There have been instances in the past of PNMs not getting bids and feeling kind of hurt because GCers said things like that and it didn't happen.

Also, we really don't know these PNMs and how they'll do at recruitment, so why say that?

And really, who's to say that a PNM thinks she is any less pretty or something like that, just because she wants to shed a few lbs. She may just want to feel healthier. Weight loss does not always mean that a girl is starving herself to be in a sorority.

BlueCarnation · #5 07-20-2009, 10:34 PM

I realize I don't have 3000 posts, but I know the difference between giving false hope and friendly encouragement. I would hope that no one would think they are going to get a bid based on what they read on a random website, but I know that recruitment is stressful and if you haven't been through it you don't know what to expect. It takes a lot of guts to post on here when you know (or don't, as is often the case) that every word is going to be inspected and criticized. It's easy for those of us who are fortunate enough to have had the experience of being a collegiate member to make certain comments; we have the benefit of hindsight.

KSUViolet06 · #6 07-20-2009, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by BlueCarnation

It takes a lot of guts to post on here when you know (or don't, as is often the case) that every word is going to be inspected and criticized.

No one is inspecting or criticizing PNMs. Seriously. I have no clue where all this passive aggressive "Violet and other GCers are so mean" stuff is coming from.

In the past few weeks we have had an influx of PNMs coming here to ask any number of questions that have been answered a zillion times and I don't see where anyone has posted anything mean to them.

The PNM who posted this question received not ONE negative reply, just good advice about appearances.

The only peeps we have even been remotely mean to in recent memory are the fake rush story folks. And really, they deserve it because they're dumb.

33girl · #7 07-20-2009, 09:54 PM

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Originally Posted by perfectinpurple

OMG!!! I just have to say I think you need a reality check. I do not think you are overweight at all! Just because there is a hollywood ideal of what a sorority girl should look like does not make it true!!!!

Unless you know her exact body type and bone structure...you really can't speak to this. As a tall girl who has been told things like "you can carry it" and "no one notices those pounds because of your height" let me say that it doesn't make you feel any better. Each individual knows what it takes to make them feel good. Yeah, maybe to the naked eye I don't look like Roseanne Barr, but it doesn't mean I like where I am and that I shouldn't try to improve myself. This is not "self loathing" or anything like that.

I know there are other tall girls on here who know EXACTLY what I'm talking about.