Where are all the Potential PNMs?

[agzg]

This is completely irrelevant I think, but if you're a PNM going through recruitment at a small non-competitive school find out if recs are something that happens there.

At my undergrad you'd be looked at like you were trying too hard if you have people sending in recs. My organization's legacy introduction form was the only form I saw as a collegian. This is particularly true of non-competitive, northern deferred recruitment, because if the school is small enough chances are sorority members already know a fair amount about you before you go through recruitment (including any salacious details, true or not, about who you slept with that's a member of what fraternity/campus organization).

I have heard of PNMs using recs as damage control, but as I never saw a rec as an active I don't know how true that is, and if it is true, how effective (although I would guess not very).

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by agzg

This is completely irrelevant I think, but if you're a PNM going through recruitment at a small non-competitive school find out if recs are something that happens there.

This is true. I can count on one hand the number of recs I saw as a collegian. I'd imagine that the same is true for other chapters on my campus as well. We really only got legacy forms.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by agzg

This is completely irrelevant I think, but if you're a PNM going through recruitment at a small non-competitive school find out if recs are something that happens there.

At my undergrad you'd be looked at like you were trying too hard if you have people sending in recs. My organization's legacy introduction form was the only form I saw as a collegian. This is particularly true of non-competitive, northern deferred recruitment, because if the school is small enough chances are sorority members already know a fair amount about you before you go through recruitment (including any salacious details, true or not, about who you slept with that's a member of what fraternity/campus organization).

I have heard of PNMs using recs as damage control, but as I never saw a rec as an active I don't know how true that is, and if it is true, how effective (although I would guess not very).

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

This is true. I can count on one hand the number of recs I saw as a collegian. I'd imagine that the same is true for other chapters on my campus as well. We really only got legacy forms.

I never even knew what a rec was until I started posting on this site a year ago. If someone told me to call my alumnae panhellenic, I would have looked at them as if they were speaking another language.

I'm not saying that chapters should do the work for the PNMs, but I can completely understand how it might be more difficult for certain girls to find recs (especially when some of them might not even know what it is they're looking for and how to go about getting it).

[Meow190]

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At my undergrad you'd be looked at like you were trying too hard if you have people sending in recs. My organization's legacy introduction form was the only form I saw as a collegian. This is particularly true of non-competitive, northern deferred recruitment, because if the school is small enough chances are sorority members already know a fair amount about you before you go through recruitment (including any salacious details, true or not, about who you slept with that's a member of what fraternity/campus organization).


I go to exactly this sort of school, and I've been told that I dont NEED recs, but the girl I was talking to never said anything about having them being bad, just that if I couldnt find someone to write one it wasnt a big deal.

Also, I'll be going through as an upperclasswoman (2nd year) and have freinds in most of the sororities, so they do already have a good idea of who I am. I have a good lead on a rec for one of the chapters, but the others are proving tricky. Should I just take the one, or should I give up on all of them?

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by agzg

At my undergrad you'd be looked at like you were trying too hard if you have people sending in recs. My organization's legacy introduction form was the only form I saw as a collegian. This is particularly true of non-competitive, northern deferred recruitment, because if the school is small enough chances are sorority members already know a fair amount about you before you go through recruitment (including any salacious details, true or not, about who you slept with that's a member of what fraternity/campus organization).

Originally Posted by Meow190

I go to exactly this sort of school, and I've been told that I dont NEED recs, but the girl I was talking to never said anything about having them being bad, just that if I couldnt find someone to write one it wasnt a big deal.

Also, I'll be going through as an upperclasswoman (2nd year) and have freinds in most of the sororities, so they do already have a good idea of who I am. I have a good lead on a rec for one of the chapters, but the others are proving tricky. Should I just take the one, or should I give up on all of them?

I know that the sisters at my school (one that was described by agzg to a tee) wouldn't know what to do with a rec. If you have good friends in some of the chapters, ask them what they would suggest. Ask them about their personal experiences when they were in recruitment, whether or not they had recs, and how influential they really are (without asking for membership selection details).

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Meow190

I go to exactly this sort of school, and I've been told that I don't NEED recs, but the girl I was talking to never said anything about having them being bad, just that if I couldnt find someone to write one it wasnt a big deal.

Also, I'll be going through as an upperclasswoman (2nd year) and have freinds in most of the sororities, so they do already have a good idea of who I am. I have a good lead on a rec for one of the chapters, but the others are proving tricky. Should I just take the one, or should I give up on all of them?

We got one rec the whole time I was in school and we were just kind of clueless as to what to do with it - we didn't think it was a negative though. The girl ended up pledging elsewhere anyway. Take the one rec that was offered to you, but don't break your back trying to get one for every group or freak out if you can't.