New School, New Sorority?

[33girl]

I'm guessing (or should I say hoping) this is a huge chapter where everyone doesn't necessarily know everyone and they had no clue she was sick. Like kddani said, if you just disappear, you're going to get terminated.

[littleowl33]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I'm guessing (or should I say hoping) this is a huge chapter where everyone doesn't necessarily know everyone and they had no clue she was sick. Like kddani said, if you just disappear, you're going to get terminated.

We had a really similar situation with our chapter, and even though were were pretty small at the time (~45 sisters) the sister kept us completely in the dark. She rushed, was initiated, and then completely disappeared when the semester ended. Someone saw her moving out, and she just said she was moving back home, across the country. After that she completely went dark - she wouldn't respond to any kind of contact, even by her Big. We were really worried about her, but there was nothing we could do. She did contact us about a year later to say she was ok, but to this day no one knows what happened, why she left or if she's ever coming back. We really miss her! She was a great sister. I don't know what ever happened in terms of her status with the fraternity - I'm not sure if she could be given alumna status because she was only active as an initiated sister for a few weeks, and then she was gone. Like the OP's situation, it's probably very convoluted.

I guess my point is, don't blame the sorority - they could be completely in the dark as to what happened or unable to contact her. If we had known our sister was in trouble and needed our help, we would have done everything we could. But it's understandable that someone with serious health or family problems might not feel comfortable sharing that information, even with her sisters.

[nicci8702]

My chapter was a smaller one, at a small school. We all knew eachother personally. And, again-I saw to it that EVERYONE (including a few new alumnae) KNEW what was going on.

[LatinaAlumna]

Originally Posted by nicci8702

I've stated what happened very clear, there are no details missing. No one contacted me in regards to my expulsion, and no one has asked for my pin or my certificate back. I did not owe any dues from that semester at all. I owed for housing, but that was paid up BEFORE they mentioned to me my expulsion.

I've not even seen any paperwork. They made the decision after I had withdrew from the school.

Originally Posted by nicci8702

Also, they were made insanely clear of my medical condition months before I withdrew from school. I did not just "drop off the face of the earth". They knew EXACTLY where I was going and why I was leaving.

Originally Posted by nicci8702

My chapter was a smaller one, at a small school. We all knew eachother personally. And, again-I saw to it that EVERYONE (including a few new alumnae) KNEW what was going on.

So I take it my read on your situation was correct. I'm sorry that this happened to you. I suppose you are not able to join another sorority, but perhaps there are other women's groups that you can take part in at your new school. Not the same, but you might enjoy participating in something new.

Originally Posted by MysticCat

It sure looks like you meant it the way everyone seems to have understood it.

Everyone? Really?

Originally Posted by texas*princess

I know enough about GLOs to know that not all of them are the same and not all of the umbrella organizations operate the same either and therefore wouldn't need to throw out a "I just don't GET < insert whatever type of GLO here >" statement. I may not understand how or why they operate, but I do know whatever they do works for them, so I will just leave them be and not question it

Kudos to you!!

[nicci8702]

I keep posting, sorry ladies. I miss my sisters terribly. And I most certainly did not abandon them, nor do I blame them for whatever misunderstanding has taken place. I love them with all of my heart, and I would give my heart and soul to be a part of what I once was. My sisters are truly amazing women and I just hope that this can be cleared up with EVERYONE so I know what is going on, so they know what is going, so we can put this behind us and move on.

Bottom line: I miss my sisterhood. It was where I belonged. I wouldn't ever abandon my sisters, in ANY scenario. And I am thankful to have met and shared so much with them. I pray that I can continue to do so in the future.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by LatinaAlumna

Everyone? Really?

Kudos to you!!

Yes, everyone. In case you didn't read her entire post carefully, note the part I bolded above and read again what came before it:

Originally Posted by texas*princess

It wasn't just the one line... it was the context of it. You went on for a couple of sentences implying that that this sorority must be so awful for deactivating or putting on alumna status because of the circumstances and then ended it with "I don't get NPC sororities sometimes" which further implies that all NPC sororities care about is money and just go around deactivating members for no good reason without telling them and that there are not NPC chapters who care about their members enough to visit/send cards/fund raise for sick sisters when clearly there have been examples of such.

So I stand by my "everyone."