New School, New Sorority?

[LatinaAlumna]

Originally Posted by nicci8702

However, I was told that they had processed paperwork to deactivate me(?) and that I was no longer a sister of that sorority.

WHAAAAT?????

What kind of sorority deactivates a sister who is undergoing such a serious illness? My gosh, if this happened to me, I know my sisters would not only be visiting me everyday, but would be out there fundraising to help me pay the medical bills. Deactivating me or putting me on "alumna" status would be the LAST thing they would do, and I am 100% sure about this. I'm sorry, ladies, but I just don't get NPC sororities sometimes.

To the original poster, I am very glad to hear that you are better and are going back to school.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by LatinaAlumna

WHAAAAT?????

What kind of sorority deactivates a sister who is undergoing such a serious illness? My gosh, if this happened to me, I know my sisters would not only be visiting me everyday, but would be out there fundraising to help me pay the medical bills. Deactivating me or putting me on "alumna" status would be the LAST thing they would do, and I am 100% sure about this. I'm sorry, ladies, but I just don't get NPC sororities sometimes.

To the original poster, I am very glad to hear that you are better and are going back to school.

Let's not make this a "NPC vs non-NPC" battle. I have a feeling there is something she is not telling us. Alumna status would be the standard procedure in my org when someone withdraws from school for any reason, with the option of being reinstated when you re-enroll in school or transfer.

[nicci8702]

I've stated what happened very clear, there are no details missing. No one contacted me in regards to my expulsion, and no one has asked for my pin or my certificate back. I did not owe any dues from that semester at all. I owed for housing, but that was paid up BEFORE they mentioned to me my expulsion.

I've not even seen any paperwork. They made the decision after I had withdrew from the school.

[kddani]

Originally Posted by LatinaAlumna

What kind of sorority deactivates a sister who is undergoing such a serious illness? My gosh, if this happened to me, I know my sisters would not only be visiting me everyday, but would be out there fundraising to help me pay the medical bills. Deactivating me or putting me on "alumna" status would be the LAST thing they would do, and I am 100% sure about this. I'm sorry, ladies, but I just don't get NPC sororities sometimes.

As said above, don't turn this into an NPC thing. Should we generalize all sororities like yours because of some hazing incident one did?

Also, did the sisters even know about the illness? She hasn't said that she ever even told them. If someone just drops off the face of the earth and doesn't tell anyone, yes, they're going to get disaffiliated.

It is also strongly possible that it is just a mix up of terminology. If she was truly "kicked out", there's a lot of paperwork that goes along with that and the sister isn't exactly in the dark about the process.

[nicci8702]

Also, they were made insanely clear of my medical condition months before I withdrew from school. I did not just "drop off the face of the earth". They knew EXACTLY where I was going and why I was leaving.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by nicci8702

Also, they were made insanely clear of my medical condition months before I withdrew from school. I did not just "drop off the face of the earth". They knew EXACTLY where I was going and why I was leaving.

I think that the best thing for you to do is to contact the Membership person at your sorority HQ and inquire about the possibility of reinstatement. Simple as that.

While I am glad that you're feeling better and such, I have little desire to see this thread turn into an "OMG the sorority that expelled this girl is EVIL" kind of deal.

[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally Posted by nicci8702

Also, they were made insanely clear of my medical condition months before I withdrew from school. I did not just "drop off the face of the earth". They knew EXACTLY where I was going and why I was leaving.

Are you sure you were completely terminated as a member or were placed on involuntary inactivity? Those are two completely different things.

I would take the advice of others who have posted here and contact your membership person at the HQ of this sorority. She should be able to clarify any terminology mix up and your actual standing as a member. She may also be able to get you reinstated as a member if it is determined a mix up has occurred.

Make sure you have documentation to present to HQ regarding your medical condition/making the chapter aware, any emails/paperwork between you and the chapter, and official school withdrawal papers. Not having those items available to present to HQ may make you and your claim less credible. Also familiarize yourself with your organizations bylaws both national and local regarding membership. This can also help make your case to HQ.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by LatinaAlumna

I don't understand how that fits in with the concept of sisterhood. We have sisters who have not paid dues in a long time. They are still sisters although they are not permitted to participate in particular activities.

My take on it: Some sister she is if she is failing to live up to her obligations by helping support the sisterhood financially and is instead letting the rest of the sisterhood take up the slack. Of course, as pretty much everyone here has said, if it's something like illness and the chapter knew what was going on, then surely a chapter should support and help her. But a sister (or brother) who just persistently fails to love up to obligations without a reasonable excuse? It seems to me that they're the ones who've given up on sisterhood (brotherhood). A chapter's expulsion is just making official what the "sister" has already in effect done.

Also, no one said anything about NPC vs. Non-NPC. I spoke of what MY sorority ONLY would do, not ALL non-NPC organizations, but I guess some of you did not process that.

You said:

Originally Posted by LatinaAlumna

WHAAAAT?????

What kind of sorority deactivates a sister who is undergoing such a serious illness? . . . . I'm sorry, ladies, but I just don't get NPC sororities sometimes.

The "I'm sorry" pretty much equals "No offense, but . . . ." Surely you're not surprised that NPCers "processed" what you wrote exactly the way you wrote it. It sure looks like you meant it the way everyone seems to have understood it.