Room for Individual Growth?

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by FunGirl123

For the first time this year, I am regretting being a part of the greek system. I recently feel like I am not allowed to grow as an individual. Just the little things of being told what to wear, what to do, and being careful of not giving your sorority a bad name have been making me very doubful of this whole thing. We should all be accepted no matter what.

Why is it sooo important that we must act our best at a frat party, or that we must dress well to meeting (because sometimes, after a long day of classes, i dont have time to fully dress-up for meeting, esp when i live off campus). Whatever happened to intellectual freedom? Whatever happened to accepting your sister for who she is?

1.) When are you being told what to wear? If it is only at business meetings and ritual ceremonies, I don't see the problem here. Like with any professional job, they will tell you that you need to wear business attire.. and I'm sure you won't argue and show up in the morning wearing sweatpants, complaining that you had to drive from all the way across town at 7:30am. I'll bet you've been through other ceremonies in your life... graduation, religious rituals, etc. and there are certain things to wear there, also. Did you complain then? And with a sorority, these events don't usually last any more than an hour or two. Is it really that terrible? If, on the other hand, you're being told what to wear for new member activities, that's an entirely different story. And yes, that's wrong.

2.) If fellow sorority members are telling you specifically what you can and can't do, then that is also a problem. I think I need some examples.

3.) I don't know why you'd be upset about sisters not wanting the sorority to have a bad name. What activities are you participating in that would make other students look at you in a negative light? And why would you want to partake in such things?

If this is simply about wanting to wear jeans and a sweatshirt to formal occasions, and wanting to freely be a drunk slut, I don't know what to tell you. College is supposed to prepare you for the real world, and being in a sorority enhances that educational process. If that's not what you want, then maybe being in a sorority isn't for you.