Why are questioning PNMs consistently demonized here?

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by epchick

So I don't know if it's because I'm almost in a Mexican-food induced coma, but your last few sentences do not make sense. WTH are you talking about? Who isn't "stepping up to the plate" and what aren't they "owning?" And how the heck are those two 'scenarios' the same?

Yes, where are these threads where NPC members are gleefully discussing cutting pnms for not being thin/rich enough? And are these mysterious GCers established posters, or trolls looking for trouble? I have somehow missed these threads . . .

[APhiAnna]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Yes, where are these threads where NPC members are gleefully discussing cutting pnms for not being thin/rich enough? And are these mysterious GCers established posters, or trolls looking for trouble? I have somehow missed these threads . . .

There aren't any, because that wasn't in my message. I said that there are constant threads where GC members mention how wrong it is for NPC members to make superficial cuts, start rumors about other chapters, for PNMs to act like chapters are beneath them, etc. Essentially, being "mean girls". I am saying that the only differences between those women that nearly all GC members (including me!) are criticizing, and the select GC posters that post constant rude posts to everybody on this site, are purely situational. The attitude, however, is definitely the same exclusive, rude just to be rude, pretentious and insecure "mean girl" phenomenon. And the excuses, "Just deal with it" are the same that both parties would make. Once again, I don't necessarily think this is an unfair or difficult point to make.

And before somebody tells me to just leave GC, they are missing the point because 95% of the women here make very enjoyable posts, many without "sugarcoating" or "blowing sunshine up somebodies ass" (which I think is also wrong). And before somebody misconstrues my post as ludicrous, I think that most of the population understands what I am trying to say, so at this point I'm just starting to assume that people don't want to understand what I am saying.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by APhiAnna

And before somebody tells me to just leave GC, they are missing the point because 95% of the women here make very enjoyable posts, many without "sugarcoating" or "blowing sunshine up somebodies ass" (which I think is also wrong).

Not to toot my own horn, but I'd like to think I've mastered the art of being honest with PNMs without being an outright bitch to them.

However, I feel like if a PNM is going to dish out rudeness, I can do that too.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

However, I feel like if a PNM is going to dish out rudeness, I can do that too.

Yes, I’ve noticed a few snarky comments from your end as of late. I only notice because other people will point it out. I haven’t been on this site too long, but I know that for you to be “rude” is rare.

Need advice? Ask KSUviolet06. She’ll be as nice as possible until she just can’t take your crap anymore.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Yes, I’ve noticed a few snarky comments from your end as of late. I only notice because other people will point it out. I haven’t been on this site too long, but I know that for you to be “rude” is rare.

Need advice? Ask KSUviolet06. She’ll be as nice as possible until she just can’t take your crap anymore.

To be honest, I've been around this site for awhile, and I find that 99% of the ladies on GC are the same way. If you ask in a non-rude manner, you'll get a non-rude response.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

To be honest, I've been around this site for awhile, and I find that 99% of the ladies on GC are the same way. If you ask in a non-rude manner, you'll get a non-rude response.

Precisely.

I think that's why I'm confused by this entire thread.

If PNMs ask questions that have been asked before, people will direct them toward the search function, or they’ll actually list threads for them to look over. If the questions start becoming ridiculous, and the PNM doesn’t want to listen/becomes angry or rude, then it is in almost everyone’s nature to be rude back.

Don’t ask for the advice if you can’t handle the truth.

[Thetagirl218]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Precisely.

I think that's why I'm confused by this entire thread.

If PNMs ask questions that have been asked before, people will direct them toward the search function, or they’ll actually list threads for them to look over. If the questions start becoming ridiculous, and the PNM doesn’t want to listen/becomes angry or rude, then it is in almost everyone’s nature to be rude back.

Don’t ask for the advice if you can’t handle the truth.

Exactly! Ditto that!

[TriDeltaSallie]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

If the questions start becoming ridiculous, and the PNM doesn’t want to listen/becomes angry or rude, then it is in almost everyone’s nature to be rude back.

And that is my point. I realize it is human nature to be rude when provoked. I'm asking people to live out their sorority's values and rise above that for the sake of everyone involved.

Despite what some people might think, it DOES reflect poorly on your sorority if you are rude here. There are many non-Greeks who lurk here and they will form opinions about groups based on the women who represent them here. And even if you don't post with your letters, all of the women here represent the Greek system as a whole.

If a PNM annoys you here, just walk away and let someone else answer her. And if no one else answers, she''ll get the message that the conversation is over.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Need advice? Ask KSUviolet06. She’ll be as nice as possible until she just can’t take your crap anymore.

This is a perfect quote for a signature. And so true!

[APhiAnna]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Not to toot my own horn, but I'd like to think I've mastered the art of being honest with PNMs without being an outright bitch to them.

However, I feel like if a PNM is going to dish out rudeness, I can do that too.

Toot away, I agree with you completely. I think you are very fair. And if a PNM is rude, then I understand it's natural for most to strike back. But I feel that the women I'm talking about will find any opportunity to act rude, many times not even to PNMs or Helicopter Moms.

[FSUZeta]

[QUOTE=KSUViolet06;1777378][COLOR="Magenta"]Not to toot my own horn, but I'd like to think I've mastered the art of being honest with PNMs without being an outright bitch to them.




you are one of the best!