Why are questioning PNMs consistently demonized here?

[KSUViolet06]

In alot of cases, PNMs are looking for people to tell them what they want to hear.

For example, the most recent post from the young lady asking "how we decide who gets bids?"

I believe she received VERY POLITE answers stating that this wasn't something we discussed.

But she kept asking about it.

That's when people are rude.

I would like to think that PNMs would LIKE to hear some honest feedback about things.

Nothing in life is sugarcoated. Ever. Like, not getting a job, not getting the house you wanted to buy, etc.

Recruitment is one of those things.

I find that it is much more helpful to be honest with a PNM so she can go into the process FULLY PREPARED and knowing all possible outcomes (you may not get a bid, you may not get your top choice, you may not be 100% happy).

I'd much rather be honest with a PNM than see her get hurt thinking that everything turns out perfectly in the world of recruitment and sorority life.

If that makes me "mean" then so be it.

I do however think that there is way to be tactfully honest however. It's like those retro threads. It's not so much in what a PNM says, but how it is said.

[ZTA72]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

But she kept asking about it.
That's when people are rude.
I would like to think that PNMs would LIKE to hear some honest feedback about things. If that makes me "mean" then so be it.

100% agree. I've never posted so much in a thread, but this got to be crazy. I started out trying to help and look where that went. Being nasty in a post as a PNM just doesn't make sense to me. I think we were all very * nice and pleasant* until the PNM became rude and hostile. Guess we all just need to get over it. I know I do. WOW.