Single ladies, how do you respond to "why aren't you married yet?"

BlessedOne04 · #1 02-04-2009, 04:51 PM

I am!! I think its going to be hilarious.

christiangirl · #2 02-07-2009, 01:10 AM

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Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam

I want to but I have no girlfriends here to see it with - and I would have to drag live-in to it.

I might go by myself though - I like going to movies by myself but I have a feeling this one would be more fun with a couple of girlfriends.

It was funny and rang true one too many times.

There was a couple things that I didn't like, but overall I'd see it again.

I saw a lot of myself in certain scenes...duly noted.

twinkle555 · #3 03-12-2009, 01:28 PM

I get this question from my parents believe it or not. Ive been dating my BF consistently (so no "breaks") for 4 years this April. I get it from my friends too but mostly from the 'rents, which is ironic because my mother has outright said that she cant afford to give me a dime for a wedding! I wouldnt mind being engaged right about now, but it would have to be a long engagement (1-2 yrs) for me and my bf to save $ for a wedding.

justabeachbrat · #4 03-12-2009, 06:16 PM

Answer both my younger brother and give, ....based on our family's batting average, 0-3, proceed with caution.
Parents: divorced, after 22 years married.
Older brother: divorced, after 8 years married.
Older sister: divorced, after a year.
Me: engaged twice, one time the guy decided he wanted to find himself (Looking in the yellow pages, perhaps), and the second time, I decided I wasn't ready.
My youngest brother: Tries to avoid the topic because of the above.

AGDee · #5 03-13-2009, 06:06 AM

When people have asked me that recently, I say stuff like "We're not so good at marriage in my family" since my history looks worse than yours, justabeachbrat:

Parents: divorced after 23 years married
Brother: just got married a week ago, his third
Me: divorced twice, 1 after 14 months, 1 after 7 years

I won't do it a third time. I see no reason to. My kids will be in college. Unless I end up doing it for health insurance purposes or something legal like that, I just don't see it happening.

twinkle555: I can understand parents asking after you've been in a 4 year relationship, depending on how it's asked. There's a way to nag about it and there's a way to just be interested in whether your child is thinking that way about a long term boyfriend. Although, if you're like my brother, you just don't mention that you're seeing anybody until a month before your wedding and then you say "By the way, Dad, I'm getting married next month". You call your sister 6 days prior to tell her.

agzg · #6 03-13-2009, 10:32 AM

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Although, if you're like my brother, you just don't mention that you're seeing anybody until a month before your wedding and then you say "By the way, Dad, I'm getting married next month". You call your sister 6 days prior to tell her.

My mom always used to say that the only way we would know he was getting married would be when he called my mom asking for my dress size, and then a week later calling and saying "OK I'm getting married this weekend, Nicole's in the wedding and I have her dress at my house."

As luck had it, however, he fell in love with one of my best friends, so I had a year's notice!

twinkle555 · #7 03-13-2009, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by AGDee

twinkle555: I can understand parents asking after you've been in a 4 year relationship, depending on how it's asked. There's a way to nag about it and there's a way to just be interested in whether your child is thinking that way about a long term boyfriend. Although, if you're like my brother, you just don't mention that you're seeing anybody until a month before your wedding and then you say "By the way, Dad, I'm getting married next month". You call your sister 6 days prior to tell her.

They like to switch from a very annoying nag to a "we're just inquiring!"

justabeachbrat · #8 03-13-2009, 02:14 PM

[quote=AGDee;1789988]When people have asked me that recently, I say stuff like "We're not so good at marriage in my family" since my history looks worse than yours, justabeachbrat:

Parents: divorced after 23 years married
Brother: just got married a week ago, his third
Me: divorced twice, 1 after 14 months, 1 after 7 years

I did forget one....it was so quick.
My older sister eloped, married a guy on the rebound, she'd met at party--they did date a few weeks--they eloped to Las Vegas, this was when she was a college junior. I was in the dorms for summer school, she calls, says she is coming over, with a surprise. Her surprise was the elopement had been a mistake, she and they guy were parting. My mom had learned of the "wedding" and she calls to discuss a reception. Surprise, mom.

My sister had a very pretty wedding, on the beach in front of her apartment in SoCAl. She then moved the next day to Texas, the "groom" had been a guy she knew in high school, they met again through a mutual friend. He was a jerk before, and remained a jerk. From Texas, she moves to Wyoming, and he moves to CA. Just plain crazy.

I hope to marry, if it happens, fine. I have seen the marriages of friends implode, and also some who are happy.

aephi alum · #9 03-13-2009, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by AGDee

twinkle555: I can understand parents asking after you've been in a 4 year relationship, depending on how it's asked. There's a way to nag about it and there's a way to just be interested in whether your child is thinking that way about a long term boyfriend.

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They like to switch from a very annoying nag to a "we're just inquiring!"

AUGH. My in-laws do the same thing when they bring up the topic of our having a baby. One second it's "You'd make such a good mother!" or "It's different when it's your own" or "Awww, look at the cute little baby over there!" and the next second it's "Of course, it's up to you when you want to have children." (Note: "when", not "if".)