Study: You may be more racist than you think

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So what you're saying is that because I take offense to someone calling me the c-word, I obviously wouldn't take offense to someone calling my boyfriend a sexist pig, or I would even do it myself?

I don't see where you're jumping to the conclusion that just because women have been oppressed so someone who thinks women have been oppressed or believes that there is a gender bias also thinks that your boyfriend's a pig. That's a stretch. In short, I don't think it's a "getting even" attitude, I think it's human nature.

It's human nature to categorize people in to offensive and non-offensive words for their race, gender, religion, etc. I believe that was covered in the first few pages of this thread. If certain white people are going to be offended by being called "white girl," then certain people can do that. It just doesn't make much sense, especially if they turn around and qualify another girl as a black girl (not that I've seen you do that, but I have seen people be highly offended by something and then turn around and do the exact same thing).

My great-grandfather was really upset with my grandmother because she married a "kraut." Food for thought. It happens with every nationality, every race, even within a race (light skinned v. dark skinned comes to mind).

The rationalization, I think, for most of the people that you see as being "completely rude" to you is that you fly off the handle when someone questions your logic. PJ questioned your opinion, you flew off the handle, and started posting like a douchebag. It has nothing to do with whether or not you're new. The only reason I posted about your newness was because your post count is low and it seems like you're getting into flame wars left and right. You should have taken your own advice, and not flown off the handle and called someone rude when they questioned your logic, a.k.a. not engaged.

If you've noticed, your "questioning" of my opinion has been answered in as professional a way as the charged subject allows. If you keep other threads out of the topic at hand, you should do fine. If people are going to be rude to you, let them. Or better yet, put them on ignore.

Therefore, the bullying stops, you go along your way and everything is fine.

ETA: Drop that other thread. Srlsy.

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Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam

So what you're saying is that because I take offense to someone calling me the c-word, I obviously wouldn't take offense to someone calling my boyfriend a sexist pig, or I would even do it myself?

I don't see where you're jumping to the conclusion that just because women have been oppressed so someone who thinks women have been oppressed or believes that there is a gender bias also thinks that your boyfriend's a pig. That's a stretch. In short, I don't think it's a "getting even" attitude, I think it's human nature.

It's human nature to categorize people in to offensive and non-offensive words for their race, gender, religion, etc. I believe that was covered in the first few pages of this thread. If certain white people are going to be offended by being called "white girl," then certain people can do that. It just doesn't make much sense, especially if they turn around and qualify another girl as a black girl (not that I've seen you do that, but I have seen people be highly offended by something and then turn around and do the exact same thing).

My great-grandfather was really upset with my grandmother because she married a "kraut." Food for thought. It happens with every nationality, every race, even within a race (light skinned v. dark skinned comes to mind).

The rationalization, I think, for most of the people that you see as being "completely rude" to you is that you fly off the handle when someone questions your logic. PJ questioned your opinion, you flew off the handle, and started posting like a douchebag. It has nothing to do with whether or not you're new. The only reason I posted about your newness was because your post count is low and it seems like you're getting into flame wars left and right. You should have taken your own advice, and not flown off the handle and called someone rude when they questioned your logic, a.k.a. not engaged.

If you've noticed, your "questioning" of my opinion has been answered in as professional a way as the charged subject allows. If you keep other threads out of the topic at hand, you should do fine. If people are going to be rude to you, let them. Or better yet, put them on ignore.

Therefore, the bullying stops, you go along your way and everything is fine.

ETA: Drop that other thread. Srlsy.

I did not say that at all, nor even imply it. And that is not the conclusion to which I have "jumped" at all. It's been too long of a day to repeat my posts, again. Just re-read it.

Your fourth paragraph is a sentiment I have repeated several times in posts in this thread.

I did not fly off the handle for any questioning of logic, but rather for extremely rude treatment. Reading back will prove this, but if you don't want to take the time, understandably, that's exactly what the problem is. It has nothing to do with questioning logic but about people being a complete bitch in doing so. I give it back. I think because you haven't read the whole exchange you are missing what I find so offensive. You are not the only person to refer to "newness", and what I found most offensive was the repeated condescending attitude accompanied with the inevitable "ur such a child omg" and then a completely juvenile approach to the situation by that person. I make it a policy to never take advice from people who cannot take their own.

Thanks, but I have no need for anyone to tell me what to do. Try giving that same advice to the other poster who cannot let it die. Both of us have behaved like juveniles. You'll notice who is acknowledging that.