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12-17-2008, 03:01 PM
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Originally Posted by cincy
So there is this guy (we will call him Chris) I have known since 7th grade, I am now a sophomore in college. We have always been friends and nothing more, until this past October when we went to this party with some friends and after that night things went from friends to more than friends. We have so many things in common and things will be made official (boyfriend-girlfriend not marriage) sometime closer to Christmas (I heard from one of his friends)
Recently, the past two weeks we have been talking sexual things. He knows I am a virgin (thats right the only 19, almost 20 year old virgin left on the planet). I plan[ned] to wait until marriage but I don't thing that's going to happen. Last night I gave in to my feelings and said it is very possible that it will happen soon. I won't say what else we spoke about 
My question is, how do I know if this is the right thing to do? He is a lot different that other guys I have messed with and i hae never felt this way about anybody else. I am simply tired of waiting to get some, i have passes up I don't know how many guys, but this one feels right.
Any advice?
P.S- I promise you he is a good guy. I wouldn't give up my virginity to some random loser. |
What do you mean you heard things will be made official through his friends? Why is he waiting to make things "official" with you? I think you need to actually date the guy for awhile before you decide to lose your virginity. Knowing someone as a friend is totally different than as a boyfriend.
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12-17-2008, 03:46 PM
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Originally Posted by WVU alpha phi
What do you mean you heard things will be made official through his friends? Why is he waiting to make things "official" with you? I think you need to actually date the guy for awhile before you decide to lose your virginity. Knowing someone as a friend is totally different than as a boyfriend.
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Agreed.
This is just my opinion, but I would expect someone to be my boyfriend (at the least) before we have sex (not afterward or "sometime closer to Christmas)."
That sounds a little shady to me, and I wouldn't go for it. But you probably are so I hope it's everything you're building it up to be.
My mom once said "Guys don't buy the cow when they can get the milk for free." (or something like that)
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12-17-2008, 04:20 PM
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Originally Posted by WVU alpha phi
What do you mean you heard things will be made official through his friends? Why is he waiting to make things "official" with you? I think you need to actually date the guy for awhile before you decide to lose your virginity. Knowing someone as a friend is totally different than as a boyfriend.
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Amen.
And you aren't the only 19/20 year old waiting for marriage. There is at least one other...
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12-17-2008, 04:33 PM
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Amen.
And you aren't the only 19/20 year old waiting for marriage. There is at least one other...
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You're also not "the oldest on the planet."
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12-17-2008, 05:09 PM
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I just looked at all your old posts on GC. I know stuff can change in a few months but are you sure this is what you want?
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12-17-2008, 07:05 PM
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My mom once said "Guys don't buy the cow when they can get the milk for free." (or something like that)
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My mom used to say that, too--but I kept getting hung up on the fact that she was equating me with a cow (though I know that was hardly the point).
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And you aren't the only 19/20 year old waiting for marriage. There is at least one other...
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At least. 
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You can get pregnant or catch an STD your first time.
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You can also get pregnant and catch certain skin-contact STDs even with a condom. That seems to never get mentioned because it happens infrequently, but "ish happens" sometimes.
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12-17-2008, 07:29 PM
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I know everything that goes along with having sex (possible pregnancy, STD's, AIDS, STI's) I'm not dumb.
It is not shady. It's not that sex is the only thing we talk about. It wasnt until recently that we started talking about it. We talk about school, family, friends, future, our relationsip...
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12-17-2008, 07:37 PM
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He's got you right where he wants you.
He'll probably do you a few times before Christmas and hope to pick up someone better at a New Year's party.
That's what I'd do anyway.....
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