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An interesting point of view, I must admit. But, I think it doesn't address the entire issue, though. The characters in the movies are, in most cases, very shallow. (That is my problem with the characters.) Rarely do you learn why a person is driven in their career, jaded in their relationships, or why they are stupid or gullible about love. Let's use the Nia Long character from Best Man. She didn't end up with a man at the end of the movie, but for the majority of the movie, she was chasing after someone else's man. She complained of a lack of social life because of her long work hours, but she loved what she was doing. Just because she didn't get the man at the end of the movie should not matter. She made specific decisions which limited her ability to find someone to have a relationship with (or marry).
To compare some of the films where white successful women get the guy is also flawed. There are several movies where the woman gets the man, but she has to either have a disease which is cured, he's dying, there's some obsessed person chasing after her, or they have the relationship from hell and now they want to put it back together.
ONe of my best girls had this to say and I do concur...
I rather like the Essence hooks because magazines like Cosmopolitan concentrate on the physical only. For all that I know, men are looking for a woman who is pretty much together, can take care of herself financially, takes pride in her body, and actually are fun to be with. They don't want to spend their time with someone who is desperate. Some women wear clothes to attract a guy, but he wouldn't want his wife to wear some of those revealing clothes. The other thing is that some women don't want to look for men that they are not of the same race. My thing is think broadly.
While I believe that the media does make things seem dire, I think people should concentrate on having a good, healthy relationship where both parties grow. If it leads to marriage in 5 or more years, so be it. But to be a serial dater, having no issues about pursuing a man who is involved with someone else, desperate to get married, but not willing to think broadly about their options, is a complete waste of time. You can only control your actions, not the actions of others.
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