Rush at OU

[Ladybugmom]

Originally Posted by AXOrushadvisor

Ladybugmom-

I read your post and as a mom and a Recruitment Advisor I hope I can offer some insight. Not being a legacy should not hurt your daughter at all. In fact, at the school I advise at it is almost a strike against you! The girls feel legacy's have an attitude of "I'm in no matter what" The first thing we look for and cut for are grades so if you daughter has good grades that is a bonus. I will also tell you that if your daughter is shy or reserved it will make it a little more difficult. The girls that do really well during recruitment and have perfect recruitments tend to be the girls who are beautiful, envolved, good grades and light up a room when they walk in the door. Of course it doesn't hurt that they wear all the right things (cute, current stuff) say all the right things (act very interested and sincere and not look around, maintain good eye contact) and are generally warm and friendly. I could write a book after 15 years of doing this on the right way to look and act in a recruitment party. You should hear and see the comments that I hear on PNM's Tell you daughter to keep an open mind and not to listen to the rumors on what house are good and bad ect. Not all you hear is true. Good luck. She will have a lot of fun.

Thanks so much for the information! I think my daughter will do just fine, as she will be more than prepared. We have already gotten at least 2 recs from each house lined up and we will go on major shopping sprees this summer. As far as writing a book, I wish there was one out there to help those going through recruitment to know what to expect. I have not directed my daughter to this site because frankly, some of the threads on here would scare her in to not going throug recruitment at all.... I want her to go in prepared but with an open mind. She really doesn't have any pre-conceived ideas about any of the house so far.
As far as the top 10% rule, I had no idea my thread would spark such discussion. My daughter does go to an affluent, highly competitve high school. I am certain that she is just as prepared for UT or A&M as many of the top 10% in more inner city or rural high schools. I do not know what the answer is, however in our case, it is disappointing to know that she can't get into UT (her first choice) simply because there is no room for her. Thanks so much for the lively discussion!

[ChiOmegaMOM2]

Originally Posted by Ladybugmom

As far as writing a book, I wish there was one out there to help those going through recruitment to know what to expect. I have not directed my daughter to this site because frankly, some of the threads on here would scare her in to not going throug recruitment at all.... I want her to go in prepared but with an open mind. She really doesn't have any pre-conceived ideas about any of the house so far.
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I totally agree! I am so glad that my daughters did not know about this site until after recruitment. One of them ( they are twins) did not want to go through recruitment, but the other did. They preffed 2 other different houses, but pledged together. Now, at their pref, the one who was hesitant about rushing speaks about her decision and how much it has enriched her life.
After choosing clothes, and getting manis and pedi, the only advice I gave them was to be very positive, polite, and NEVER say a negative about any group or person. Which is pretty much good advice for life.

[AXOrushadvisor]

Ladybugmom-

Are you in Texas? Did she attend any of the summer camps there? My daughter went to Camp Mystic and loads of the counselors were greek. They were always asking her where she got her AXO t-shirts from. Of course, I have a new supply every year because of being around during recruitment. If she has the camp ties that may help her to be on common ground. Just a thought.

[Buttonz]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

One of the main ingredients for success is college is - attendance. My students don't believe me when I tell them that, but it holds true. It's the chicken and the egg, though - do you do better in a class because you always attend, or do you always attend because you are the type of student who makes the effort necessary to succeed? !

Very very true. I started off my undergrad in school A and I would skip class to do other things happened more often that I like to admit. When I transferred to school B, they had a very strict attendance policy. If you miss more then 2 classes at trimester, your are supposed to be dropped from the class. Most teachers will work with you if you have a valid reason to miss more (for example, I had surgery last winter and there was a good chance I would have had to miss more then 2 Thursday classes but my professor said she would work with me) it has to be a good excuse. I had to re-take three classes that my grade didn't transfer over. While better teachers and smaller classes probably played a part in my better grades, the fact that I couldn't just skip class and had to actually be in class or risk getting dropped played a huge part in my grades being a lot better from the first time I took the classes.

[em_adpi]

Originally Posted by AXOrushadvisor

Ladybugmom-

Are you in Texas? Did she attend any of the summer camps there? My daughter went to Camp Mystic and loads of the counselors were greek. They were always asking her where she got her AXO t-shirts from. Of course, I have a new supply every year because of being around during recruitment. If she has the camp ties that may help her to be on common ground. Just a thought.

I didn't go to Camp Mystic myself but some of my best friends have been counselors there for a few summers.

Sorry, just got excited to see a little something familiar.