New member I need greek advice

[kyang08]

Originally Posted by 33girl

No, it's nearly impossible (some places) because you quit pledging elsewhere. And I can't imagine a guy going thru rush and saying "I quit because I didn't bond with my pledge brothers" and getting a bid.

4-5 weeks is not that long...I definitely didn't feel super bonded w/ my class after that long, and there were only 5 of us. It's a fallacy that you have to be BFFs with everyone in your pledge class. Have you gotten to know other brothers? Do you have a big brother?

Kids, be a little patient. Friendships are not microwave mac & cheese.

i never rushed though =\

[lucgreek]

Originally Posted by kyang08

i never rushed though =\

No one knows what school you're at or the campus climate so no one could really tell you if you'd have a chance at rush in the spring. Generally if you've stayed in for 4-5 weeks and are about to be initiated, it would seem weird to drop at that point. If I was in another chapter and your excuse was "I didn't bond with my pledge brothers" I'd wonder if you put the time and effort to hang out with them.

Something drew you to those guys in the first place. I'd take an active stance in getting to know more actives and your pledge brothers. Trust me, if you aren't bonding with anyone in your fraternity then I'd wager you would have gotten the boot long ago, so the actives think you are a worthwhile asset (unless they are a really crappy fraternity and just need numbers and well we won't go into that).

Also you said in your OP you were in your freshman year of college, in one of your replies you say you are a Sophomore, which is it?

And if you didn't go through rush, why not? If you're a sophomore, it will be harder to get a bid in the spring, though it is possible. Again, I don't know what your school is or greek life climate, so at some places it will be impossible and others it will be plausible. Though with your excuse of not bonding with your pledge brothers I still would have reservations about extending you a bid.

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by kyang08

i never rushed though =\

me neither, and I wasn't really close with my pledge class until around graduation time. It's the time between getting initiated and graduating that really brings you together, because you'll have the same memories of what the fraternity used to be like before the new guys got there. You have the entire rest of college to make friends, it's not like these guys won't be there next term/quarter/whatever you have.

But no one will really want to take someone's left overs. They will think that you think you're too good for your fraternity, so then why bother with someone with an attitude that will just quit?