Do your parents like your girlfriend or boyfriend? Would you break up if they didn't?

[Taualumna]

My parents are okay with my bf and think I can do better (they don't feel he's refined enough (he is a little rough with certain things, but I think he'll grow out of it)).

[DaemonSeid]

I didn't read all of the responses before this but if someone said it already...my apologies...


I have always been one of those that believed in not taking someone around my fams until I was comfortable with her.

I do remember a few times there were some women I dated that my mom hated but my grandmother liked....and one good time everybody liked someone but I was not feeling...but truth told, if my parents had a serious problem with someone, I would have a conversation to find out why and see if I see it for myself.

And sometimes, this doesn't just stop at friends this could also be applied to friends and associates too!

[ASTalumna06]

My mom usually doesn’t say anything bad about a boyfriend until after we’ve broken up. I once pointed this out to her and she said, “Like with anything else, if I tell you to run away from it, you’ll probably cling to it.” Very true, as is the case with most people if you tell them to leave the person they're with (even if you know it's for the best!)

But she never disliked them for any major reasons. She'd know when I wasn't completely happy, though, but she'd keep her thoughts to herself. And then she'd make fun of them with me after the fact, saying things like, "What was up with his hair, anyway?"

One of my sisters, on the other hand.. her parents completely HATE her husband. They were just married this past summer and they didn't even attend the wedding. Her and her parents have never really been the best of friends, and most of their fighting stemmed from her dating this guy. But I've known him for years, and I've never heard anyone say anything bad about him. He's a really great guy, and perfect for her, and her parents are simply crazy. She actually had to return home to pick up a few things she had in her parents' house this past weekend, and her husband went with her, and her dad said to her, "If that neo-Nazi husband of yours even gets out of the car to help you, I'll call the police." Yea, it makes no sense, and it's ridiculous.

Parents can be weird and/or insane

[Munchkin03]

My parents have only met one of my boyfriends--that's because I live almost 2,000 miles away. They liked him as my boyfriend, but not as anything more. I didn't understand that then, but as the relationship failed to progress, I saw what they're saying. The funny thing is that I have friends in similar relationships, and I want to tell them to run for the hills! But that's a decision we all have to make for ourselves.

Sometimes, parents have a hard time with someone because of their religion/race/social class, and those complaints are effed up. Equally messy are the cases where your parents don't think anyone is "good enough," or they don't want to share you with anyone. But, if your parents don't like your significant other--and this gets important as you approach marriage--because of substance abuse, perceived possessiveness/abusive tendencies, failure to hold a job/provide for themselves, or anything like that, then their concerns are justified.

[XOMichelle]

my parents haven't met my boyfriend, but they like what they have heard so far.

I have a friend whose brother is married to an awful woman who keeps her husband away from my friend's family and is purposefully mean to them. This crazy girl wrote a letter to my friend after what seemed like a friendly first meeting that attacked her and described all sorts of ugly attributes that aren't true. The letter reduced her to tears! The family doesn't know what to do and have had to accept that their son is not a functioning member of her family. Totally sucks!