New member I need greek advice

[Kansas City]

Have you bonded with members outside of your pledge class? In my opinion, pledge class bonding is less important following initiation since you are now a "member" and part of the entire chapter. The decision is up to you but you should consider the chances of you receiving a bid elsewhere if you decide to rush again next year (nearly impossible at some schools).

[kyang08]

Originally Posted by Kansas City

Have you bonded with members outside of your pledge class? In my opinion, pledge class bonding is less important following initiation since you are now a "member" and part of the entire chapter. The decision is up to you but you should consider the chances of you receiving a bid elsewhere if you decide to rush again next year (nearly impossible at some schools).

is it nearly impossible because im a sophomore? i plan on rushing winter term.

[33girl]

No, it's nearly impossible (some places) because you quit pledging elsewhere. And I can't imagine a guy going thru rush and saying "I quit because I didn't bond with my pledge brothers" and getting a bid.

4-5 weeks is not that long...I definitely didn't feel super bonded w/ my class after that long, and there were only 5 of us. It's a fallacy that you have to be BFFs with everyone in your pledge class. Have you gotten to know other brothers? Do you have a big brother?

Kids, be a little patient. Friendships are not microwave mac & cheese.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Friendships are not microwave mac & cheese.

Excellent! May I quote you??

[33girl]

of course

[kyang08]

Originally Posted by 33girl

No, it's nearly impossible (some places) because you quit pledging elsewhere. And I can't imagine a guy going thru rush and saying "I quit because I didn't bond with my pledge brothers" and getting a bid.

4-5 weeks is not that long...I definitely didn't feel super bonded w/ my class after that long, and there were only 5 of us. It's a fallacy that you have to be BFFs with everyone in your pledge class. Have you gotten to know other brothers? Do you have a big brother?

Kids, be a little patient. Friendships are not microwave mac & cheese.

i never rushed though =\

[lucgreek]

Originally Posted by kyang08

i never rushed though =\

No one knows what school you're at or the campus climate so no one could really tell you if you'd have a chance at rush in the spring. Generally if you've stayed in for 4-5 weeks and are about to be initiated, it would seem weird to drop at that point. If I was in another chapter and your excuse was "I didn't bond with my pledge brothers" I'd wonder if you put the time and effort to hang out with them.

Something drew you to those guys in the first place. I'd take an active stance in getting to know more actives and your pledge brothers. Trust me, if you aren't bonding with anyone in your fraternity then I'd wager you would have gotten the boot long ago, so the actives think you are a worthwhile asset (unless they are a really crappy fraternity and just need numbers and well we won't go into that).

Also you said in your OP you were in your freshman year of college, in one of your replies you say you are a Sophomore, which is it?

And if you didn't go through rush, why not? If you're a sophomore, it will be harder to get a bid in the spring, though it is possible. Again, I don't know what your school is or greek life climate, so at some places it will be impossible and others it will be plausible. Though with your excuse of not bonding with your pledge brothers I still would have reservations about extending you a bid.

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by kyang08

i never rushed though =\

me neither, and I wasn't really close with my pledge class until around graduation time. It's the time between getting initiated and graduating that really brings you together, because you'll have the same memories of what the fraternity used to be like before the new guys got there. You have the entire rest of college to make friends, it's not like these guys won't be there next term/quarter/whatever you have.

But no one will really want to take someone's left overs. They will think that you think you're too good for your fraternity, so then why bother with someone with an attitude that will just quit?

[Kansas City]

Originally Posted by kyang08

is it nearly impossible because im a sophomore? i plan on rushing winter term.

Like 33Girl said, it is nearly impossible because you broke your pledge to shop around for something better. My campus is pretty non-competitive where upper classmen regularly receive bids but I cannot imagine a chapter extending a bid to someone who had pledged and dropped out of another Greek organization on the same campus. I would either try a little harder to become friends with all members (not just your pledge class) of the organization or drop out of Greek life on your campus altogether.

[LΩVE]

Originally Posted by Kansas City

Like 33Girl said, it is nearly impossible because you broke your pledge to shop around for something better. My campus is pretty non-competitive where upper classmen regularly receive bids but I cannot imagine a chapter extending a bid to someone who had pledged and dropped out of another Greek organization on the same campus. I would either try a little harder to become friends with all members (not just your pledge class) of the organization or drop out of Greek life on your campus altogether.

Every campus IS different, and mine is not competitive, but I do know two guys who came in my same year that dropped one fraternity and pledged another a year later (fall rush). It's a small campus, so everyone knew that's what they did, but their fraternity still wanted them. (And it's one of the two "top" on campus that has no trouble getting their numbers every year). I guess it depends on who you know and how you click.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by LΩVE

Every campus IS different, and mine is not competitive, but I do know two guys who came in my same year that dropped one fraternity and pledged another a year later (fall rush). It's a small campus, so everyone knew that's what they did, but their fraternity still wanted them. (And it's one of the two "top" on campus that has no trouble getting their numbers every year). I guess it depends on who you know and how you click.

Well to clarify, we had guys that did that too. But their dropping the 1st group was usually for a reason other than "I didn't bond."

[LΩVE]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Well to clarify, we had guys that did that too. But their dropping the 1st group was usually for a reason other than "I didn't bond."

These two just said they made a mistake...even worse. But then like I said, we aren't very competitive here...