Loved Ones Agianst Sororities :(

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by RareTreasure

I think it will make it easy for him if I'm not in one. I love him to death but I have 3 part-time jobs and I go to school, he is equal to a 4th job. He doesn't want me to seek support any where else. He wants to be everything. He wants to talk to me about everything, be my best friend and everything, but he isn't being realistic because he can not be a human and be everything a person needs. When I'm sad about my family and lonely without friends, he wans me to not be sad because i have him. I just wish he was the type of boyfriend that would do whatever to make me happy, but if it is not what he thinks is right......he is totally against it. I feel as if I should be an exception to what he normally does. I think i should be the one that he does stuff for that he never ever would have done, but his head is too big for that.

First of all, everyone changes in college and with time. People grow apart. Some boyfriends are good for where you are at the time but not for later in life.
I'm not a member of a sorority yet, but I am almost 100% sure that not every sorority girl is single or dating fraternity guy...
The pressure he seemingly puts on you is quite a bit. A fourth job? Ouch in my opinion, and I use to have a boyfriend just like that.
I choose this post because well read it. If it was your best friend saying that what would you say to her?
One person cannot be everything, that is why you have family and friends. If someone is everything in a relationship, the couple typically ends up being unhappy.
Also, he should be making YOU happy! The things that make him happy don't need always make you happy. My boyfriend obsesses about cars, including wheel type and tires (?) I like to make lists and exercises. He thinks my lists are weird but he wouldn't make me stop because he knows it helps. I wouldn't make him stop looking at tire types and rims because I know it clears his mind.

Basically in the end: This guy sounds unhealthy! Would you let your best friend (not your boyfriend, choose a different one) date someone like this?

[RareTreasure]

Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

Would you let your best friend (not your boyfriend, choose a different one) date someone like this?

Lord no!!!! I'm normally the happy one! But this is totally out of character for me. Thats why I'm sooo clueless as to what to say so that we wont be offended!

[KappaKittyCat]

Originally Posted by RareTreasure

Lord no!!!! I'm normally the happy one! But this is totally out of character for me. Thats why I'm sooo clueless as to what to say so that we wont be offended!

Wake up, sweetie. If he hasn't changed in five years, he's not going to. This relationship can either exist in its current state, or not exist at all. He's not going to change himself for you.

Stop worrying if he'll be offended and leave. If you stand up for yourself, of course he'll be offended. Of course he'll leave. And if he doesn't leave, you need to. Otherwise, you're teaching him that all he has to do is threaten to break it off and you'll submit. Because that's what you're doing. He's like a toddler throwing a tantrum, and you're giving him his way every single time.

It sounds like you don't want the relationship to end. Are you happy being controlled? If not, you need to get out now.