Auburn Recruitment Fall '08

[srmom]

A friend of ours husband just got sent home from the war in a box. Two small children.

Remind your daughters of things like this.

That is absolutely awful and tragic. Hopefully none of us will experience that sadness in our lifetime. My dear friend has her 19 year old son over there and is scared day and night. We all pray for his safe return and will rejoice when it happens.

That being said, it bothers me when others try to minimilize feelings by comparing some terrifically awful thing with what they percieve to be a "minor" upset.

Like yesterday, my son, who got his license exactly 6 days earlier, got into a wreck (thankfully just a fender-bender but did about $3,000 damage to this man's truck). I was PISSED! - Angry, upset, worried about my insurance rates, etc. My father in law said, with condescension in his voice, "Yes, it is a bummer, but all of your kids are healthy." Well, OF COURSE I know that and appreciate it beyond belief!!! But, dangit I was upset when it happened, is that so wrong? Within a few hours, my anger had simmered, and I am just fine now.

I'm sure there are people who are even tempered all of the time, never letting things bother them, I wish everybody could be that way, but, I admit I'm not, I get upset over things that some others with much worse problems would probably think are silly, I get over them quickly, which is a blessing. Just don't discount my feelings because YOU think they're silly, they are MY feelings and I'm going to own them. It's not your problem, it's mine!!!

Sorry I had to respond to this post and I am not in any way discounting that what has happened to your friend, it just doesn't have anything to do with rush at Auburn, and telling a girl who is upset that just got cut by every house that she should feel fine because it could be worse is not really respecting the fact that she has feelings that are hurting right now.

When a kid falls down and skins his knee do you say, "Suck it up, your leg could be broken?" No, you comfort them until they feel better then move on..

[AlphaXi_Husky]

Originally Posted by srmom

That is absolutely awful and tragic. Hopefully none of us will experience that sadness in our lifetime. My dear friend has her 19 year old son over there and is scared day and night. We all pray for his safe return and will rejoice when it happens.

That being said, it bothers me when others try to minimilize feelings by comparing some terrifically awful thing with what they percieve to be a "minor" upset.

Like yesterday, my son, who got his license exactly 6 days earlier, got into a wreck (thankfully just a fender-bender but did about $3,000 damage to this man's truck). I was PISSED! - Angry, upset, worried about my insurance rates, etc. My father in law said, with condescension in his voice, "Yes, it is a bummer, but all of your kids are healthy." Well, OF COURSE I know that and appreciate it beyond belief!!! But, dangit I was upset when it happened, is that so wrong? Within a few hours, my anger had simmered, and I am just fine now.

I'm sure there are people who are even tempered all of the time, never letting things bother them, I wish everybody could be that way, but, I admit I'm not, I get upset over things that some others with much worse problems would probably think are silly, I get over them quickly, which is a blessing. Just don't discount my feelings because YOU think they're silly, they are MY feelings and I'm going to own them. It's not your problem, it's mine!!!

Sorry I had to respond to this post and I am not in any way discounting that what has happened to your friend, it just doesn't have anything to do with rush at Auburn, and telling a girl who is upset that just got cut by every house that she should feel fine because it could be worse is not really respecting the fact that she has feelings that are hurting right now.

When a kid falls down and skins his knee do you say, "Suck it up, your leg could be broken?" No, you comfort them until they feel better then move on..

Exactly what I was thinking, but said much better than I would have.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by srmom

That being said, it bothers me when others try to minimilize feelings by comparing some terrifically awful thing with what they percieve to be a "minor" upset.

THANK YOU!

Also, AuburnMom08, with 6 parties at the max and 4 chapters that your daughter could be invited to, it would definitely be in the realm of possibilities that Panhellenic would put her parties later. She got a little extra sleep maybe?