Can someone answer my question?

[ASTalumna06]

In my chapter right now, one of our members is a few years older than the chapter average, she's married, and she has two kids. Surprisingly enough, she's one of the more active sisters and she has taken on fundraising, treasurer, and possibly one other position, I can't remember. We have a small chapter of about 13 girls right now, and for her to be as involved as she is amazes me. She comes to all meetings, philanthropy events, fundraisers, and social events. And obviously on top of all of this she has school. I honestly don't know how she does it.

It is a huge time commitment, especially if you already have a family. In most cases, chapters have at least a couple mandatory events each week that all sisters must attend.

And I can't really answer any questions concerning formal recruitment, as my school doesn't have that. But from what I can tell, you might have a very difficult time bonding with sisters in that environment, if that's what they partake in at your school. Formal recruitment usually lasts a week. At my school, bid day wasn't until about 4 weeks into the semester, and you could take all of that time to get to know your potential new members through as many recruitment and social events that you wanted to have.

Another option (and you'll have to do your research because only some sororities do this) is to become an initiated alumna. I don't have details concerning this, but you'd most likely apply through the national organization and go through an initiation ceremony. After that, you could volunteer for the chapter on your campus or join an alumnae chapter in your area. And once you learn more about the sorority you could become an advisor.

Basically, do some research. Contact the school and the national organizations of each sorority on your campus. Ask them questions concerning your situation, figure out what your options are, analyze your current situation, and then make an informed decision.