People that you would NOT recommend.

[SWTXBelle]

I knew of a lovely pnm - drop-dead GORGEOUS, good grades - who became pregnant by her long-term boyfriend, had the baby and gave it up for adoption. Some chapters at my school cut her. I proudly wrote her a glowing recommendation - here was a woman who faced a moral dilemma, and took the difficult steps necessary to maintain her integrity and finish with her graduating class. I'm proud to call her my sister - she's now happily married with two children. Her baby would be early 20s now - think of the joy she brought that family.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

I knew of a lovely pnm - drop-dead GORGEOUS, good grades - who became pregnant by her long-term boyfriend, had the baby and gave it up for adoption. Some chapters at my school cut her. I proudly wrote her a glowing recommendation - here was a woman who faced a moral dilemma, and took the difficult steps necessary to maintain her integrity and finish with her graduating class. I'm proud to call her my sister - she's now happily married with two children. Her baby would be early 20s now - think of the joy she brought that family.

No doubt. I'd like to think I'd do the same, and I'm pretty sure that I would not "no rec" someone in similar circumstance.

However, I think I'd make a chapter aware that a young women was raising the child herself had she elected to, not because there's anything wrong with that, but because her commitment to the chapter was likely to be different than that of other PNMs.

I'm not saying that I would put a negative spin on it, but I would include the information.

I think in the pregnancy cases we're discussing, so much of it just depends on the character of the PNM.