I don't want to carry a man. Some men are lazy and not ready to commit. Some men don't have to commit when they have a woman or women taking care of them.
Look at the characters in the Best Man:
Morris Chestnut (supposedly reformed player)
Taye Diggs (scared to tell his woman he loves her, religious convictions)
Terrence Howard (player)
That other guy (finally developed a backbone)
This may tip-toe off the subject, but...
I grew up and went to a prodominately white school. I had many white friends and I tell you that most were raised with different expectations that my circle of black friends.
We were raised to make education first, boys can come later. Make the honor roll. Take advanced classes. Go to college. Get a job/ career. Then find a mate. But never depend on a man.
I can't tell you how many of my white friends met their husbands in college. They started dating and socializing with the opposite sex much earlier than we did. As early as 6th grade, they were having group dates and parties. It seems that their parents "pushed" or encourage them to flirt and have boyfriends. While our parents basically made boys =bad and trouble.
I think this carries over in adulthood and some of us learning to deal with men. I just came from a singles ministry conference this weekend and I learned alot. There were a lot of sistas there, so I know I'm not the only one having problems.
*Disclaimer- this is based on the personal observations/experiences of c&c1913*
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