People that you would NOT recommend.

[lyrelyre]

Originally Posted by breathesgelatin

I wonder if the decision to No Rec this would still have been made if this young woman had put her baby up for adoption.

I often wonder the opposite. When I've heard gossip about collegians wanting to release a girl immediately who had a baby in high school and placed the baby for adoption. I always think (and often say), "You know, if she had an abortion in high school we probably wouldn't even know about it."

It’s a double standard for the same “questionable” behavior. I place questionable in quotations because such a high percentage of high school students are sexually active, that I feel it’s like the pot calling the kettle black to judge a girl because she got caught.

[Leslie Anne]

I've written one No-Rec in my life and it was one of the hardest things I've ever done. It was for my cousin...who also happens to be my God-daughter. (Oh, the guilt!)

She was such a sweet little kid but in her teen years she became an absolute nightmare. There wasn't anything scandalous; no criminal behavior or sexual escapades. She just became an unbelievable snob; an arrogant, rude, self-absorbed, brat. She started looking down on her former friends who didn't have "enough" money. She was completly incapable of any sense of loyalty, compassion or decency.

I had cut off any communication with her before she graduated from high school. When I found out where she was going to college I started to panic because I knew she would want to join a sorority and there was a KD chapter at her campus. I really agonized over writing a No-Rec but, in the end, I knew that I'd go ballistic if she became a KD. I really wasn't too thrilled with the thought of any NPC ending up with her. She simply lacked the ability to be a good sister.

What worried me was that she not only looked great on paper (good grades, cheerleader, lots of extra-curriculars) but she's a very pretty girl and it takes a little while to see her true character. I had a feeling she'd be highly sought-after.

After Recruitment, I was incredibly relieved to find out that she wasn't on KD's bid list. She did end up pledging another NPC though. About a year later I learned through the family grapevine that she actually never became an XYZ. She either depledged or they wised up and gave her the boot (probably the latter).