Alabama Recruitment Prediction (Fall 2008) - Page 35

Jill1228 · #1 08-26-2008, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Wipledale

My daughter also pledged Gamma Phi Beta and just loves it! Good student, top athlete.. Some of the nasty comments made about this sorority during rush were in very bad taste. In fact when we were at the informal pinning one of the young ladies said a frat member yelled "here comes the fat sorority" when they were coming out of the stadium on Sunday. Awful.

Well I hope your daughter held her head high and thumbed her nose at him. The guy is a rotten little douchebag! Yup, I said it!

33girl · #2 08-26-2008, 05:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Wipledale

In fact when we were at the informal pinning one of the young ladies said a frat member yelled "here comes the fat sorority" when they were coming out of the stadium on Sunday. Awful.

Of course, the appropriate response is "here comes the teeny peenie fraternity."

Football Fan · #3 08-26-2008, 06:31 PM

LOL LOL LOL LOL

NOLA25 · #4 08-26-2008, 08:48 AM

It seems the more insecure girls are the ones overly concerned with being in the "most popular" or " top tier" sororority. The more confident and mature girls realize sisterhood is what it is all about and it can be found in any of the sororities if you are not focused on all the superficial things.

mcdonald56 · #5 08-26-2008, 08:54 AM

Still having trouble tracking down an Alpha Phi rec for Alabama.The suggestion of Rho Chi was made--but if you didn't go through formal rush that is not an option. The Ala. Alum chapter made the sugggestion of Rho Chi.

baci · #6 08-26-2008, 08:55 AM

One can only hope so, but from my experiences it just not as simple as it sounds NOLA25.
I wish the young ladies would think that way, but the majority just doesn't - unless it is just the young women I have encountered.

ComradesTrue · #7 08-26-2008, 09:20 AM

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Originally Posted by baci

I wish the young ladies would think that way, but the majority just doesn't - unless it is just the young women I have encountered.

Nope. I encountered one too.

A PNM who would be attending Bama asked for me to write her a rec. Since I did not know her (she was referred to me as alumnae chapter president) I suggested that we meet for coffee. During the course of our meeting she proudly told me that she wanted to either be an ABC or an XYZ... both considered top chapters at Bama, and neither of which was my own organization. I so wanted to ask if I should just scrap the rec, since it didn't really sound like she would need it, but I also knew that her chances for those 2 chapters were long shots and she might just open her mind during the recruitment process.

Guess what? She didn't pledge anything, and I also never got a thank you note.;

Texas APhi · #8 08-26-2008, 10:27 AM

To mcdonald 56--you should contact Alpha Phi International. I know someone there could direct you to the person handling recommendations for Alabama.

BAMA2 · #9 08-26-2008, 11:52 AM

To Blondie 93

As I have stated before, my daughter just went through rush at Alabama. We are out of state and I knew how important recs and having an open mind were going to be. My daughter and I spent the entire summer securing recs and discussing rush. I told her that in my experience it is so very important to go in open to all sororities on campus. I told her it was rude to talk bad about any sorority, any sorority member and any PNM. That is not really in her character to do so but I warned her that even the most seemingly innocent comments can be misconstrued.

I think she took all of that to heart and went into rush with a very open mind. She had a wonderful time. She met so many new girls, both sorority and PNMs, and truly enjoyed the experience. She would call me and say that she couldn't believe how many great chapters there were at Alabama and how hard it woould be to make a decision. I believe that this attitude contributed to her success in rush. She did not get cut from a single house the whole way through, she received a bid to her top choice and is very happy. And although she did pledge one of those "old row" top sororities, she and I have discussed how there were a number of others that she could have been happy at.
Also, my daughter wrote thank you notes to ALL of the women who wrote her recs and wrote follow up notes to the women who wrote her recs for the sorority she pledged.
These are not difficult things. Most of them are matters of common courtesy.
My daughter is not perfect by any means but I have tried to teach her that manners are important! She did meet many girls like the one you described and from what she could tell they did not have very enjoyable rush experiences!

baci · #10 08-26-2008, 12:14 PM

Your post was quite refreshing!^^

FSUZeta · #11 08-26-2008, 08:07 PM

well, some of you all are assuming that gamma phi is not getting support from the greek community-why, exactly is that? because of something some stupid fraternity member said? or some pmns with attitudes? because the greek community is being supportive of the alpha phi colonization?

it seems to me that gamma phi is on the right track-as kk said, they are growing in the way they want to-RFM seems to be working-they made quota last year and got a great pledge class this year. gamma phi is being supportive of alpha phi's colonization, so what exactly do some of you see as the problem?

UGAalum94 · #12 08-26-2008, 09:45 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

well, some of you all are assuming that gamma phi is not getting support from the greek community-why, exactly is that? because of something some stupid fraternity member said? or some pmns with attitudes? because the greek community is being supportive of the alpha phi colonization?

it seems to me that gamma phi is on the right track-as kk said, they are growing in the way they want to-RFM seems to be working-they made quota last year and got a great pledge class this year. gamma phi is being supportive of alpha phi's colonization, so what exactly do some of you see as the problem?

Yep.

And I think it's worth pointing out that frat guys making stupid comments isn't really within the scope of what Greek Life can really address.

Wipledale · #13 08-27-2008, 08:18 AM

My point of mentioning the comments made just confirmed comments made during the week of rush about Gamma Phi from other sorority members/pnm's to my daughter. The point of my comment was to only point out how this sorority is commented on during rush week. My daughter had a great attitude about this sorority and ignored comments made and has found a wonderful sisterhood in her short time at Bama. And she is out of state. I have been so impressed by these young women at Gamma Phi....Her Great Grandmother was a Gamma Phi as well.

baci · #14 08-27-2008, 12:46 PM

This type of behavior seems to be ongoing.
It was like that back when I was completing my studies and it is still going on today. There are numerous reasons why it continues. I find it very sad, but this is life. I try my very best to live by the standards of "if you can't say anything nice" etc. I vividly remember the stereotypes of all the sororities and fraternities. One thing we can all teach the younger men and women of today is "if you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all" and drill it into them. People can be so very hurtful!

RU OX Alum · #15 08-27-2008, 02:27 PM

um....what happened to BamaDad, did his kid's rush go okay or was that last time?