Black Relationships -- The Bridge: Where The Black Men Are

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I think the independent woman not NEEDING a man
is GREAT! One advantage is that it levels the playing field. Men have traditionally had the upper hand in relationships because of the socialization of women to find them a man to take care of them. You don't want your man having the same relationship w/you that you had with your father (who took care of you and made decisions/told you what to do). When you depend on someone, they have control over you. Now men have to come with more to the table than $. Since you don't need us for our $, our only use is companionship. We have to tighten up our game. We have to show more depth and dimension. What is wrong with a Black woman demanding more of a mans character? The trouble is that men aren't used to having deal on the level with women. There are so many women that mess it up for the rest by playing that submissive role, that many men flock to these women. This leaves the independent women solo.

You'll NEVER here a man say "I don't need a woman"(unless he's a fag) Believe me, if we couldn't get a woman, unless we cleaned up our act, we would DO IT! But men don't have too...cause so many women settle.

I believe men will come around though. They just have to resocialize themselves to learn how to interact with the independent women. Many men try and impress women with what they have. If you have as much, or more than me...then I'm voiceless....let me hollar at this chic who will "need" me. Of course you want a man who has something going for himself, but if you make it clear that you aren't out for anything but companionship, them most men would love that. We hate gold diggers. I see the promotion of the independent black woman as "women would rather be single then settle for a man not up to caliber". Their is nothing wrong with demanding from a man the same you demand for yourself.

On another note, the women population almost triples that of the male population. There isn't numerically enough men to go around, so it would help if somewomen didn't want a man or choose to be single.