General Advice

[SoCalGirl]

I would discourage the bracelet. There's no guarantee how the chapter members will react. One sister could see it as a plus but another could see it as a negative.

Generally, chapter members are discouraged from bringing up boys during recruitment. However, it could come up naturally in conversation. It's not uncommon to ask if a PNM has family members or friends who are greek. Also, assuming your chapter hosts Derby Days, if that's brought up it would be an opening for her to mention your relationship.

I would only suggest she mention your relationship if she quickly deflects it from "I'm dating a fraternity guy" to "I've come to appreciate the friendships and opportunities that greek life has made possible." She needs to focus on what has drawn her to greek life other than you.

To be honest, when I was in school a couple PNMs came through who were dating fraternity guys. If I got the sense that they were rushing to get to spend more time with their bfs, or to keep an eye on them, I was hard core against them. Even when they were otherwise good potential members.

[alphagamgirl06]

I think when it comes to girls dating fraternity men and making it known to sorority women before they rush can definitely hurt their chance during recruitment. I have seen these guys date the girl who are still in high school and bring them to formal and every social event that his fraternity has therefore she is already meeting girl and forming a opinion of the sororities on campus. Now her opinion really isn't the thing that hurts her chances but girls talk.
This past year we had a girl come through who was dating a fraternity guy and everyone had heard about this girl the year before. Since her bf's fraternity always hung out with ABC and she had already met many of them. All the other chapters on campus thought oh Jane Doe only wants to an ABC lets cut her. Well poor Jane Doe got cut from every chapter the first night because it turns out that even though ABC liked her bf's fraternity they weren't to fond of him because of past relationships he had with ABCs.

[whitecross1889]

I'm so glad I found this forum and decided to ask you all about this. Because I was looking at it totally backwards! As far as I know, the sororites on campus know my girlfriend is rushing but don't know who she is. I think it would be best to keep it that way. She's only been to one formal so I have a good feeling she doesn't have any idea about house stereotypes. I'll just let her go through rush blind and I'll keep my mouth shut until Bid Day. It'll be more fun that way. Thanks again for all your sound and objective advice!

[KSUViolet06]

Remember that at the end of the day, you're the only one who can make the decision of whether to go through recruitment or not.

Certainly there are situations in which you are probably less likely to get a bid, but don't ask us "whether you SHOULD rush" or not. That decision is up to you.