Legacy Dilemma

PandaPi · #1 06-01-2008, 11:28 PM

And if you don't want to go NPHC, go NPC! Don't rule out the other 28 sororities that you could join!

I have a few friends who were NPHC legacies and chose NPC organizations, so don't feel like you have to choose one of the four. Depending on how big your campus is, there may be more NPC choices.

Best of luck and do what you feel is best for YOU not what your mom wants. But you know that already.

tld221 · #2 06-01-2008, 11:34 PM

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Originally Posted by PandaPi

And if you don't want to go NPHC, go NPC! Don't rule out the other 28 sororities that you could join!

I have a few friends who were NPHC legacies and chose NPC organizations, so don't feel like you have to choose one of the four. Depending on how big your campus is, there may be more NPC choices.

Best of luck and do what you feel is best for YOU not what your mom wants. But you know that already.

did i miss something?

knight_shadow · #3 06-01-2008, 11:37 PM

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Originally Posted by tld221

did i miss something?

Apparently we all missed the 2 new sororities added

PANTHERTEKE · #4 06-01-2008, 11:48 PM

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Originally Posted by tld221

did i miss something?

I caught that, too.

It's 26, Panda. Not 28.

PhiMu_Gator · #5 06-02-2008, 12:41 AM

My grandmother was in a NPC sorority and my mother ended up being in different NPC since her mother's wasn't at her college, and crazily enough, I ended up in a completely different one even though both were at my university. I think being a legacy might have been special, but honestly each chapter is way different at each school. It's the women in that chapter that make the chapter. The ideals of each sorority are important, but each one has the common goal of being a place to become the woman you want to be and offering friendship, support, and love in that endeavor. Be proud of your legacy status in coming from a family that values sisterly bonds, but don't let it stop you from looking at all the options that are out there. =)

AOII Angel · #6 06-02-2008, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by PhiMu_Gator

My grandmother was in a NPC sorority and my mother ended up being in different NPC since her mother's wasn't at her college, and crazily enough, I ended up in a completely different one even though both were at my university. I think being a legacy might have been special, but honestly each chapter is way different at each school. It's the women in that chapter that make the chapter. The ideals of each sorority are important, but each one has the common goal of being a place to become the woman you want to be and offering friendship, support, and love in that endeavor. Be proud of your legacy status in coming from a family that values sisterly bonds, but don't let it stop you from looking at all the options that are out there. =)

What a great explanation of why you shouldn't be so worried about pledging your mom's group or expecting your daughter to pledge yours!

AKA_Monet · #7 06-02-2008, 08:05 PM

The NPC sororities and NPHC sororities do vary chapter by chapter. However, with the NPHC differs in most of their chapters because of the International programmatic targets each of us uphold. Since I do not know what differences are with NPC sororities, I cannot say--some like ZTA do have a "universal philanthropy" with Susan G. Komen. But that is all I know, personally.

The reality is Taurus is that you do well in school, end of discussion. I really am unsure what your qualms are--is it that you want to join an D4 Sorority or not? If you want to join, then first and foremost, if you choose the one that your mother is a member, there are guidelines and rules in place for that. Your mother should be assisting you fully in that process within limitations.

But, if you do not want to join her Sorority and she might react to it profusely, the whole thing is if you have done all your research like others have stated, then you will know you did the best thing for you and only you. However, remember, parents are just fearful that their children will make adult choices without considering the entirety and gravity of the whole situation. Thereby alienating yourself from her "comforting arms". But, it has happened before and many people do it. So, hey, know yourself.

There is NO directed PLEDGING in any NPHC sorority--it is now called "membership intake process" or "MIP". You make an application to the organization with proof of your grades at an informational (when directed) or Rush (may or may not be invitation only). Rush is NOT the time to decided if you want to become a member--that decision should have been made a long time ago. Rush is when you are asking if you can change your life...

Consider this, just as XYZ is not your material, so is it that you may not be XYZ's material or ABC's material either--legacy or not... You may be PDQ or EFG's material... Or not... Get what I am saying?

Good luck on your education!

taurus0426 · #8 06-02-2008, 10:40 PM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

The NPC sororities and NPHC sororities do vary chapter by chapter. However, with the NPHC differs in most of their chapters because of the International programmatic targets each of us uphold. Since I do not know what differences are with NPC sororities, I cannot say--some like ZTA do have a "universal philanthropy" with Susan G. Komen. But that is all I know, personally.

The reality is Taurus is that you do well in school, end of discussion. I really am unsure what your qualms are--is it that you want to join an D4 Sorority or not? If you want to join, then first and foremost, if you choose the one that your mother is a member, there are guidelines and rules in place for that. Your mother should be assisting you fully in that process within limitations.

Okay now how should she be assisting me then? I know there's a special legacy form out there. I'm a very dilgent student so that's not a problem but why is it that when it comes to D9 organzations a person must do tons of research (which reminds me I have some books to get) but in NPC or IFC organziations it seems that people just pick the one they like. I'm not sure if that's how it works but many people I know who want to pledge NPC dont even have a house in mind before rush.

ladygreek · #9 06-03-2008, 02:40 AM

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Your mother should be assisting you fully in that process within limitations.

Her mother hasn't been active since college. I doubt there is much she can do to assist her, since she would not know the current process. In fact, in DST a mother's "help" can be to the detriment of the daughter, especially since we do not have a legacy clause.