Just Started new sorority!!

[WannaB3]

Very original response. Guess you couldn't think of another put down on your own? I'm sure there's some classic sitcom, that I am not smart enough to know about, that you could quote from to try to chop me down to size some more.

Keyword: try

[catiebug]

'nuff said. Oh, and wannabe - that's an original quote by me. Just as the one below is an original quote by you.

Originally Posted by WannaB3

I am not smart

[WannaB3]

thanks for that and here is one for you...and everyone I think. Just replace, "blogs" with "threads people start on GC" , and you will get the idea. http://www.mmiblog.com/monday_mornin...ng_maturi.html

Tuesday, June 28, 2005

Blogging Maturity 101

Tally Wilgis had a great post last week about blogging and some great rules for keeping blogs positive. As many of you know, we've had our own 'growing pains' here at the [virtual greek hang out] from time to time... people biting each other's heads off, throwing punches, etc. But it's really because we're a diverse group that comes from a lot of different backgrounds. And, it seems, we're all passionate about what we believe. Tally's thoughts were so good, I'm going to post it, along with our rules on a new reference page here at the blog. Thanks, Tally!
Tally writes:

Because blogging is relatively new for most people I'd like to think that many of the people who are involved with blogging are adolescents in their use of this new medium. As with young people there is an uncertainty among those who are learning the blogging world. For many of these otherwise fine individuals the urge to make an ignorant remark is simply too strong. The perceived glory is far too great and the self-centeredness takes hold under the guise of "to god (g) be the glory!" With some angry "Christian" bloggers, God simply becomes a means to an end. The end being the feeling of "winning" a blogging boxing match.

So, for all my friends who are learning how to blog (and comment on blogs):

1. Each blog you visit is the internet "home" of someone.
You wouldn't dare walk into a home and run your mouth at the host. It's inappropriate to do on blogs as well. It's just ugly and you end up looking stupid. Don't do it. It's immature.

2. Any attack on a blog is a public attack.
It's one thing to debate a friend in college where it's you two in a room or sitting out on the grass with no one else around. Imagine if you took some of those debates and broadcasted them to every dorm room on campus. Yeah. Be aware of what you say. You can look stupid, no matter how 'valid' your point may be.

3. It takes time to type so people will judge you a little tougher.
When everyone knows you took time to type your thought it gets a little more scrutiny than if you just said something in a conversation. It's one thing (still dumb) to blurt out something ignorant in a conversation b/c you don't have the facts or you come off as rude but to type it solidifies any thought of you being immature or ignorant. Read what you type. You have time to think it through!

4. A sign of maturity is the ability to delay gratification.
One thing that separates a mature person from the immature is the ability to hold back from immediate gratification. This is true for the blog world. We all have opinions.

If you have a brain you have a thought, but not every thought has to be brought forward and presented in the dialogue. I try to operate on terms of 'value added'. When I'm considering posting I ask "Is what I'm about to say going to add value to the conversation?" My "opinion" sometimes means NOTHING to the core of the author's post. Therefore I keep my golden brain to myself no matter how great I think I may be at the time.

5. Look up the term Ad Hominem.
I'll do the work for you: [link]

The jest of an Ad hominem is that it's an attack on the person rather than the argument. I see this so much in the blog world it makes me sick.
Goes a little like this--

Author: "So and so is doing something amazing for God."
Immature Blogger: "So and so is a blank and blank. Why doesn't so and so just become more humble, LIKE ME!"

Don't attack the person. If you disagree and you must get your thought on record, do it in a civil way. Don't go after people. If you must, talk about the idea presented.

6. You can be both true and Wrong at the same time!
For many immature bloggers they don't understand that perception is reality. Although the context of what they are saying is true, how they are spraying is wrong. For effective communication both parts must be able to be received.. the saying AND the spraying.

Those who don't want to work to make their communication better received by their audience have lowered themselves to bully status. "I'll say what I want and you WILL listen or else". The 'or else' in blog world is usually "Or else I'll keep posting!"

So there you have it... some thoughts to consider. If you don't like them it's okay to disagree. Just disagree in the right manner and we can all play in the sandbox together.

Thanks, Tally... I couldn't have said it better! I hope you all agree!
Todd
Add Your Comments and Ideas now...

WannaB3

[Psi U MC Vito]

Lets try to get things back on track here. Another place that might be good to hold it would be the women's center if your school has one. Thats where one of the sororities on my school has all their meetings and rituals. And I can think of a couple of orgs that have their pinning ritual open besides just DU.

[pixxie_x0]

Okay, so... Kappa Kappa Shocker... pretty sure that can't possibly be a real sorority, for the simple fact that the sorority you are referring to as "not very nice" and some ridiculious crap made up about a "shocker?" is MY sorority.. how dare you insult our name, myself and my sisters.
we approached you to join...and you declined. Therefore it had nothing to do with you getting a shocker... grow up. seriously... We have helped you as much as we can, and we welcomed you to the campus when you decided to form your own sorority, and this is how to repay us Samantha? Oh and when we confronted you, don't tell me this person isn't really you.. their a "fake" ...because thats what you tried to say right? I know this is you because things you have said relate strictly to you... and when the first post was posted before anyone else knew about your new sorority.. so nice try... next time don't make stuff up please because I take offence and so does the rest of our sorority.

Thanks for the heads up on what type of person/ sorority you will be running...

Cheers!

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by pixxie_x0

Okay, so... Kappa Kappa Shocker... pretty sure that can't possibly be a real sorority, for the simple fact that the sorority you are referring to as "not very nice" and some ridiculious crap made up about a "shocker?" is MY sorority.. how dare you insult our name, myself and my sisters.
we approached you to join...and you declined. Therefore it had nothing to do with you getting a shocker... grow up. seriously... We have helped you as much as we can, and we welcomed you to the campus when you decided to form your own sorority, and this is how to repay us Samantha? Oh and when we confronted you, don't tell me this person isn't really you.. their a "fake" ...because thats what you tried to say right? I know this is you because things you have said relate strictly to you... and when the first post was posted before anyone else knew about your new sorority.. so nice try... next time don't make stuff up please because I take offence and so does the rest of our sorority.

Thanks for the heads up on what type of person/ sorority you will be running...

Cheers!

Yowza!

[LPIDelta]

Originally Posted by pixxie_x0

Okay, so... Kappa Kappa Shocker... pretty sure that can't possibly be a real sorority, for the simple fact that the sorority you are referring to as "not very nice" and some ridiculious crap made up about a "shocker?" is MY sorority.. how dare you insult our name, myself and my sisters.
we approached you to join...and you declined. Therefore it had nothing to do with you getting a shocker... grow up. seriously... We have helped you as much as we can, and we welcomed you to the campus when you decided to form your own sorority, and this is how to repay us Samantha? Oh and when we confronted you, don't tell me this person isn't really you.. their a "fake" ...because thats what you tried to say right? I know this is you because things you have said relate strictly to you... and when the first post was posted before anyone else knew about your new sorority.. so nice try... next time don't make stuff up please because I take offence and so does the rest of our sorority.

Thanks for the heads up on what type of person/ sorority you will be running...

Cheers!

Yup--that's a wow for sure.

[nittanyalum]

HOW DID I MISS THIS THREAD??!?!??!???!?

Originally Posted by pixxie_x0

Okay, so... Kappa Kappa Shocker... pretty sure that can't possibly be a real sorority, for the simple fact that the sorority you are referring to as "not very nice" and some ridiculious crap made up about a "shocker?" is MY sorority.. how dare you insult our name, myself and my sisters.
we approached you to join...and you declined. Therefore it had nothing to do with you getting a shocker... grow up. seriously... We have helped you as much as we can, and we welcomed you to the campus when you decided to form your own sorority, and this is how to repay us Samantha? Oh and when we confronted you, don't tell me this person isn't really you.. their a "fake" ...because thats what you tried to say right? I know this is you because things you have said relate strictly to you... and when the first post was posted before anyone else knew about your new sorority.. so nice try... next time don't make stuff up please because I take offence and so does the rest of our sorority.

Thanks for the heads up on what type of person/ sorority you will be running...

Cheers!

pixxie_x0, welcome to Greekchat.

[MaggieXi]

I generally shy away from the "I just started a new sorority" threads...this one is a new fave!

[APhi4Ever]

Hmm

[ΘOΞgabrielle]

pix u need to watch YOUR comments. forget the other girls. they are old enough to watch their own. If they happen to make a mistake and you feel it is necessary to rebuttle or highlight their comment please do so in a way that DOESN'T demean, disrespect or insult. I'm glad that you are such a proud sister and take pride in our sorority but please make sure to keep your dignity and grace.
XoxoxoxoX
your prytanis

as for everyone else! great job keeping the greek-connection alive! it's amazing to see so many enthusiastic and smart women coming together for the forum!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by ΘOΞgabrielle

pix u need to watch YOUR comments. forget the other girls. they are old enough to watch their own. If they happen to make a mistake and you feel it is necessary to rebuttle or highlight their comment please do so in a way that DOESN'T demean, disrespect or insult. I'm glad that you are such a proud sister and take pride in our sorority but please make sure to keep your dignity and grace.
XoxoxoxoX
your prytanis

as for everyone else! great job keeping the greek-connection alive! it's amazing to see so many enthusiastic and smart women coming together for the forum!

UMMM....

I'm pretty sure that pixxie_xo is not a sister of your sorority, rather she is criticizing a sister of your sorority.

Originally Posted by 33girl

UMMM....

I'm pretty sure that pixxie_xo is not a sister of your sorority, rather she is criticizing a sister of your sorority.

I was under the impression that pixxie and Gabrielle are members of the same sorority, which is the sorority the the OP was having "issues" with in the first post.

Guess I was wrong, because "Kappa Kappa Shocka" doesn't sound anything like Theta Omicron Xi.

I thought the campus only had one sorority before the OP created hers?

[pixxie_x0]

Originally Posted by ΘOΞgabrielle

pix u need to watch YOUR comments. forget the other girls. they are old enough to watch their own. If they happen to make a mistake and you feel it is necessary to rebuttle or highlight their comment please do so in a way that DOESN'T demean, disrespect or insult. I'm glad that you are such a proud sister and take pride in our sorority but please make sure to keep your dignity and grace.
XoxoxoxoX
your prytanis

as for everyone else! great job keeping the greek-connection alive! it's amazing to see so many enthusiastic and smart women coming together for the forum!

Garbrielle and I are from the same sorority, and there was only one on campus before this new one.

I'm sorry for my words, I was just very upset. still kinda am.