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[Little32]

Is your husband's family supportive?

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by Little32

Is your husband's family supportive?

Those family members who are close to him are supportive. As he is an only child and his parents are both deceased, our greatest support comes from his elderly aunt. She's a source of prayer and wisdom for us. It's that old wisdom too...the kind that makes you think. She had some things to say before we got married - mostly about the age gap and sometimes not so good.

As I mentioned, my husband is older than I am, so his close family members are also older/elderly. We haven't been married very long, so I'm still working out how those relationships will be best established and honed.

Right now we're in a difficult circumstance being that we're both far from home and have no family in the area. Once we move back south, those family connections will be energized.

[Munchkin03]

Jeni, it sounds like you have a great support system going on right now, with more to come as you return to the South. You're very lucky in that regard. I feel like a lot of biracial kids suffer from "ABF Syndrome," which could either mean Absent Black Father or Absent Black Family. It's sad, but there are so many young white women who have children with black men without really understanding that these kids are going to be perceived as black, and WILL need a support system. Not only is your husband around, but you seem to have friends and family members that can provide additional role models. Yay!

I am close to a family where the mother is white and the father black. However, their dad took an early stance with the kids that they were black first, and would be perceived as such. He's a great, strong role model for them, which so many biracial kids don't have! So sad...