dating a sweetheart and I'm NOT a greek

[PhiGam]

Our sweetheart has never hooked up with any of us, shes just good friends with a lot of the guys. Shouldn't you ask her this instead of us, we obviously have no idea about her particular situation. If you're the jealous type then DON'T date a sweetheart because she is going to have to do a lot of things with the fraternity, including date functions.

[ForeverRoses]

Originally Posted by PhiGam

Our sweetheart has never hooked up with any of us, shes just good friends with a lot of the guys. Shouldn't you ask her this instead of us, we obviously have no idea about her particular situation. If you're the jealous type then DON'T date a sweetheart because she is going to have to do a lot of things with the fraternity, including date functions.

Just curious, if your sweetheart is not dating a member and she is invitedto a date function, can she bring any date that she wants? So say your sweetheart starts dating a guy in another fraternity, is he able to go to your date parties?

[PhiGam]

Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

Just curious, if your sweetheart is not dating a member and she is invitedto a date function, can she bring any date that she wants? So say your sweetheart starts dating a guy in another fraternity, is he able to go to your date parties?

No, she goes with guys who have dates cancel at the last minute. She also finds like five guys dates from her sorority for all of our functions.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by PhiGam

No, she goes with guys who have dates cancel at the last minute. She also finds like five guys dates from her sorority for all of our functions.

ok, who are the 5 guys and why can't they find their own dates?

I dated the Tri Sig sweetheart for a while. I don't think they would have been too jazzed about me coming to a date party, LOL.

[Jestor]

Originally Posted by 33girl

ok, who are the 5 guys and why can't they find their own dates?

This strikes as a touch of snobbery going on here.

Not all Greeks are the most outgoing and social of people and so don't have as large a pool to draw from.

Or it might be that the guys have asked several girls, but the girls have legitimate reasons for not being able to attend.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Jestor

This strikes as a touch of snobbery going on here.

It strikes as asking why sweethearts are being used as a dating service.

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

Just curious, if your sweetheart is not dating a member and she is invited to a date function, can she bring any date that she wants? So say your sweetheart starts dating a guy in another fraternity, is he able to go to your date parties?

I would say that with most Sigma Chi chapters, the Sweetheart could bring a date. And I would guess some have. However, I have never known a Sweetheart to do so. Frankly, while some might, I would be surprised if a member of another fraternity would want to attend another fraternity's date party in the first place.

Originally Posted by PhiGam

No, she goes with guys who have dates cancel at the last minute. She also finds like five guys dates from her sorority for all of our functions.

This is the scenario I am most familiar with.

Originally Posted by 33girl

ok, who are the 5 guys and why can't they find their own dates?

In addition to what others have said, I saw the following situation more than a few times. A brother would be dating someone at another school and their "steady" was unable to attend. The Sweetheart (someone both he *and* his steady trusts) helps him get a date. Someone he might know as a friend and could go to the function and have a good time without any worry about "hooking up". This is much better than him ending up with some random girl that may not have his best interest (much less his girlfriend's) in mind.

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

It strikes as asking why sweethearts are being used as a dating service.

Among other reasons, Sweethearts are elected because of their friendship with members of the chapter. As such, most help their friends (chapter members) out of the genuine goodness of their heart. I would hope that a woman would be able to do so (help her friends) and not be viewed as being used or as some sort of a dating service.

[PhiGam]

Originally Posted by 33girl

ok, who are the 5 guys and why can't they find their own dates?

I dated the Tri Sig sweetheart for a while. I don't think they would have been too jazzed about me coming to a date party, LOL.

Sometimes people just don't have dates for one reason or another and she wants us to meet as many girls in her sorority as possible to improve relations, they're actually our homecoming partners for next year so its good to meet them now.
Maybe GLOs aren't as big where you're from, they have 150+ girls so its impossible to know them all and when you have 93 guys in your house, occasionally a few of them don't have dates.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by PhiGam

Sometimes people just don't have dates for one reason or another and she wants us to meet as many girls in her sorority as possible to improve relations, they're actually our homecoming partners for next year so its good to meet them now.

I asked because it sounded like you were saying it was the same 5 guys every time and she had to keep setting them up. I understand being shy but if semester after semester a guy can't get a date that might be a problem.

But I get what you're saying now.

As for not having a date to formal, well, girls can do that because they jump around and dance with each other. Guys not so much. If I was dating a fraternity guy & couldn't go for some reason, I would rather have the sweetheart set him up rather than have him call 1-800-4SKANKS.

And just to point out...this has NOTHING to do w/ the original post as NPHC "sweethearts" and NIC sweethearts are 2 very different things.