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[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by unicorn303

I mean, no there are events every week.. usually mixers with a fraternity. And I loved them freshman and sophomore year, but I've gotten bored with them. And we also have sisterhood events every week or every other week but I don't usually have time for them. I usually go to chapter every Sunday. We have a crush party coming up next weekend and I will probably go to that!

As for the girls, I have one best friend in it.. we roomed together when we lived in the House and we are getting an apartment together next year. I also have a group of 5 girls in it who I am pretty good friends with, we travel and meet up outside of school and stuff. Other girls in it I am friendly with on a surface level. There are some I don't like, but no major conflicts. Our new pledge class (from January) is fine but I haven't gotten to know them yet and I really don't care about getting to know them.

Another thing is, my 5 close friends in it aren't SUPER active, well 2 are active but abroad, 1 is decently active and 2 are not very active. So I hate going to events and not having my close group there which makes me not want to go to anything, so now I feel like I might as well not pay for going to nothing.

And getting more involved... idk if I want to meet NEW people.. I already have a large-enough social network, mainly outside of the Greek system, so that's another reason I don't want to go to events at times, leaving my friends to go to events where there are people I don't know as well?

And i dont really have soo much money to throw around u kno? I have loans and stuff so its a lot of money I could save.

At the same time, the rituals and meanings and idea of sisterhood is important to me and I like our ceremonies and having a pin and wearing letters.

I guess typing this out was just for me to get my thoughts out.

A few Questions -

if you don't want to meet new people, why did you join a sorority in the first place?

If you don't want to go to events because the few sisters you are close with don't go, why not encourage them to go to more events?

Getting to know people is a 2-way street no matter who you're talking about - and that is the same for your sorority sisters. You can't just join and then magically you will be best friends with everyone.

Lots of people have student loans. I know I did when I was in college, but it all worked out.

It sounds to me you just like wearing your letter sweatshirts and having a pin in your jewlery box.

Being in a sorority is more than just an "idea" of sisterhood. You get out of it what you put into it. It's as simple as that.

If you don't want to put anything into it, there's the door.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

A few Questions -

if you don't want to meet new people, why did you join a sorority in the first place?

If you don't want to go to events because the few sisters you are close with don't go, why not encourage them to go to more events?

Getting to know people is a 2-way street no matter who you're talking about - and that is the same for your sorority sisters. You can't just join and then magically you will be best friends with everyone.

Lots of people have student loans. I know I did when I was in college, but it all worked out.

It sounds to me you just like wearing your letter sweatshirts and having a pin in your jewlery box.

Being in a sorority is more than just an "idea" of sisterhood. You get out of it what you put into it. It's as simple as that.

If you don't want to put anything into it, there's the door.

Very well put.

[unicorn303]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

A few Questions -

if you don't want to meet new people, why did you join a sorority in the first place?

If you don't want to go to events because the few sisters you are close with don't go, why not encourage them to go to more events?

Getting to know people is a 2-way street no matter who you're talking about - and that is the same for your sorority sisters. You can't just join and then magically you will be best friends with everyone.

Lots of people have student loans. I know I did when I was in college, but it all worked out.

It sounds to me you just like wearing your letter sweatshirts and having a pin in your jewlery box.

Being in a sorority is more than just an "idea" of sisterhood. You get out of it what you put into it. It's as simple as that.

If you don't want to put anything into it, there's the door.

I appreciate you being honest with me about this. I suppose I just have a lot to think about.

I did join to meet more people...When I pledged, I met so many new people and loved it, and when the first new pledge class after me came, I got to know them very very well and am close to people there.

I love my friends in and out of the sorority. For the sisters I'm close to I don't think I need the sorority events to maintain our friendships.

I guess there's no way to be close to 100 girls, but I think this is what I hoped for, even though it is unrealistic. So when I see a girl I don't know well wearing my letters I just feel like the whole thing isn't important. Our chapter also almost doubled in size in the last 3 years, which is part of the problem (for me).

I guess the overall problem is that I don't feel very close to the chapter as a whole and don't really have the time(or energy) to invest in it to have a big position or to become good friends with everyone. And this makes me feel like I'm not putting enough in or getting enough out of it, so I might as well not be in it.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by unicorn303

Our chapter also almost doubled in size in the last 3 years, which is part of the problem (for me).

Our chapter went from 13 to 50 in 2 years. A lot of the older sisters had a real problem adjusting to it.

If 100 member chapters are the norm at your school, then be happy - you guys are finally on keel w/ everyone else. Are you going to know every single sister inside out like you used to? No. That doesn't mean that the "new" people aren't as good as the "old" people. Try getting to know them, you might be surprised.

As far as mixers are concerned - why aren't there any upperclassmen there? If fraternities are consistently letting their juniors and seniors blow off mixers, I would say that's very disrespectful and ask them why it's occurring.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by unicorn303

I love my friends in and out of the sorority. For the sisters I'm close to I don't think I need the sorority events to maintain our friendships.

I didn't say you needed those events to maintain your friendships. What I said was to encourage them to go to more events since you cited them not going as a reason that you didn't go to more events IN THIS POST

Another thing is, my 5 close friends in it aren't SUPER active, well 2 are active but abroad, 1 is decently active and 2 are not very active. So I hate going to events and not having my close group there which makes me not want to go to anything, so now I feel like I might as well not pay for going to nothing.

Other people have come on here and tried to be supportive saying "get to meet the new member class" or "get involved" but you've said you don't care to meet anyone else...and you don't "have time" for anything.

So quit.

Seriously.

Members who only want the letter sweatshirts and the pin in their jewelry box are deadweight on chapters if they aren't going to contribute anything.