WHY CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG??

rhoyaltempest · #1 03-11-2008, 11:04 AM

Wow. Whatever happened to..."Family business is family business"? My suggestion is to talk to your sorors privately and seek their advice. If you're talking about undergrad chapters, you may want to contact someone in that chapter and ask them straight up (in a sisterly way of course) what the problem is. They will probably tell you about an entire situation that you knew nothing about. You may also want to seek the advice of your alumnae advisor. If you're an alumnae member, you should seek advice from sorors in your chapter. Someone may even know a member of the other chapter who can shed light on the situation.

tld221 · #2 03-11-2008, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

Wow. Whatever happened to..."Family business is family business"? My suggestion is to talk to your sorors privately and seek their advice. If you're talking about undergrad chapters, you may want to contact someone in that chapter and ask them straight up (in a sisterly way of course) what the problem is. They will probably tell you about an entire situation that you knew nothing about. You may also want to seek the advice of your alumnae advisor. If you're an alumnae member, you should seek advice from sorors in your chapter. Someone may even know a member of the other chapter who can shed light on the situation.

i'm backing my soror up on this one... keep your family biz family biz.

as a NY greek, however, i believe most of the orgs have more than one alumnae chapter within the NYC area. i'd err on the side of caution in suggesting switching chapters. no one likes a chapter hopper, and it almost always causes more unnecessary drama between the chapters involved. its not like she wont ever interact with these sorors again. my advice would be to try to work it out with her current chapter. and come on, what kinda sense does that make, a neo transferring right after they were inducted? if i was that chapter i would be insulted that my neo would want to jump ship already.

this is, granted, if the next chapter would even want her as a transfer soror. if there is drama already surrounding this member, why would they want to bring her into the fold with such ease? and who is to say that when the going gets tough the next time around, she's not hopping to the next chapter, or if her drama DOES get worked out, she transfers back to her original chapter?

my best friends in the organization are in different chapters. sometimes you need the separation anyway - you dont have to be in the same chapter and sometimes it comes down to personal fit.

ladygreek · #3 03-11-2008, 04:42 PM

wow, in SGRho a chapter can decided whether to accept a member from another chapter?

rhoyaltempest · #4 03-11-2008, 05:14 PM

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wow, in SGRho a chapter can decided whether to accept a member from another chapter?

No. I think my soror is referring to the fact that switching chapters because of personality/social conflicts is frowned upon since many sorors have the "stay and work it out" attitude (although I could care less about why a soror wants to switch chapters). So in that respect, the new chapter might be hesitant because we do try to maintain good relationships with neighboring chapters (especially the grad chapters) and no one wants the drama to transfer from one chapter to another or to cause drama between the two chapters. But ultimately, we cannot turn a soror away who wants to transfer to our chapter and some chapters don't even see chapter hopping as an issue, no matter the reason.

ladygreek · #5 03-11-2008, 05:37 PM

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Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

No. I think my soror is referring to the fact that switching chapters because of personality/social conflicts is frowned upon since many sorors have the "stay and work it out" attitude (although I could care less about why a soror wants to switch chapters). So in that respect, the new chapter might be hesitant because we do try to maintain good relationships with neighboring chapters (especially the grad chapters) and no one wants the drama to transfer from one chapter to another or to cause drama between the two chapters. But ultimately, we cannot turn a soror away who wants to transfer to our chapter and some chapters don't even see chapter hopping as an issue, no matter the reason.

Oh, okay

tld221 · #6 03-11-2008, 08:58 PM

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Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

No. I think my soror is referring to the fact that switching chapters because of personality/social conflicts is frowned upon since many sorors have the "stay and work it out" attitude (although I could care less about why a soror wants to switch chapters). So in that respect, the new chapter might be hesitant because we do try to maintain good relationships with neighboring chapters (especially the grad chapters) and no one wants the drama to transfer from one chapter to another or to cause drama between the two chapters. But ultimately, we cannot turn a soror away who wants to transfer to our chapter and some chapters don't even see chapter hopping as an issue, no matter the reason.

yes that is what i was getting at. and i think NYC is a bit of an anomaly considering that everything is so close together that moving to the "next county over" isnt as drastic it would be anywhere else. So a move from Harlem to Flatbush ... or Tremont to Jamaica (for example) is what, 30-90 minutes on the subway, but really about 10-15 miles away - not nearly enough of a distance to up and switch chapters because of location. and no chapter is an island - we all support each other's events. i wouldn't say "oh, that's a MANHATTAN chapter event, pshaw, ill stick to Brooklyn events, thanks."

plus people move so often within the city that it would be a mess to transfer everytime you changed your area code. and if youre comfortable where you are, why leave? as long as you are making it to meetings and DOING YOUR SERVICE, its all good over here.

but that's my interpretation.