DARK/LIGHT...SKIN COLOR.........Is this still an issue? Let's be honest Sorors & SF'

[Still BLUTANG]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Oh man, about two weeks ago, the boy and I were at an event...one of the waiters, who's from the same area of the world as the boy, tried to convince him to have a kid with me! He was all, "my girlfriend is Dominican, and our kids are gorgeous." The girlfriend was a waitress at the club too, and he brought her over to show us! She also tried to convince us how beautiful our kids would be.

I thought it was hilarious until I remembered that some people have to go through this nonsense every day.

i get that when i go out with by bestguyfriend. he's Filipino and dates black women exclusively (another story there). When we go out his friends who haven't met me, they assume we're on a date and feel the need to tell us how cute our kids will be.

[Still BLUTANG]

Originally Posted by PerfectMistake

Good Evening all,

This post is right on time for me... I'm a beautiful dark-skinned Black woman who feels that we're all beautiful in our own way... I was raised to think that being dark skinned was wrong and I've been asked if I was adopted since I could remember (my mom is caramel, my older and younger sisters are light/medium brown, my dad is really dark, but he wasn't around)... It took a while for me to embrace this God-given beauty, but it happened... As a people (all people, all races) we still have a problem with skin color... it's sad, but true... The only solution to this problem (it's ideal, but not so real) is to just love people for who they are... It may not be that easy for everyone, but if you wanna get over it, then you'll do it...

I've received compliments for having long, permed, good hair and I've been called "pretty for a black girl"... I recently cut my long, permed hair and I'm natural (which is a whole 'nother ball game entirely)... In the end, I'm just me... Question: Why is it that I'm more accepted as a dark skinned woman with shoulder length permed hair, but overlooked or shunned for having natural hair?


While I was an undergrad (Sociology major) at a predominantly white institution, I took a class called Racism in American Society... The professor was AWESOME... On the first day of class, she put everyone in order from lightest to darkest... As a Black woman, I was proud to stand at the darkest end of the spectrum (If I'd been light skinned I'd be proud there, too!)... Funny thing is, there were people who were clearly darker than me who didn't want to be the darkest person in the class... They looked ashamed and moved closer to the middle of the spectrum... The professor gave money to the 6 darkest students in the class... It was an experiment to show whites/lighter skinned people how it felt to be rewarded solely on the basis of skin color....

I STILL HAVE MY DOLLAR 3 YEARS LATER....

This experiment touched me and made me look @ PEOPLE differently....

It's just my thoughts

girl, you are touching on so many things right there.
<--- dark sista who has been natural as well as permed and has recieved TOTALLY distinct treatment depending on hairstyle. LOL.

[skywalker20_99]

Originally Posted by Jill1228

Wonderful, I think we have the same grandmother, sisterfriend! If not, they gotta be related (my grandma is 1 of 12 kids).

I am rather dark and I kept hearing the stay out of the sun. I love the sun and the ocean...not gonna happen

WTH is "good hair"?. If it is on your head and you like it, it is GOOD HAIR

AMEN! This is the EXACT response that I use when people talk about "good hair". I even had to clown some family members recently for saying that my son has good hair. I told them that ALL of our hair is good because we have the fortune of HAVING it. When people make such foolish comments, I think about a friends of mine who doesn't have hair because alopecia - she would be happy with ANY type of hair.

[skywalker20_99]

Originally Posted by pinkies up

Ugly is a genetic trait. Flav and some random white girl will not equal pretty babies; just light skinned crickets.

Oh my goodness. I just choked on my gum!

[southernelle25]

Originally Posted by pretty edAKAted

The first couple of days of school I was in the financial aid office and there was a young white girl with a mixed looking baby with her calling her mommy. the majority of the black guys that were in there started talking saying


" see that is why i want me a white girl so i can have some pretty children"

all of the other guys in the room followed saying

"yeah, man i know what you are talking about, that is a beutiful lil' girl"

Why do people think they have to get pregnant or have a baby by a white person in order to be considered beautiful. Why are they so afraid their children will be dark skinned? I think this is just ignorance and someone needs to raise thier children correctly without superficial thoughts like that.

Sure, they say that, but then they become upset when the children are born pure white in appearance or simply non-black, which is certainly possible given the already mixed heritage of most African Americans. I have read too many stories about black men abusing, emotionally and sometimes physically, their children (born of white women) for being "too light". I have seen posts online from men complaining because they thought their children would be born "with some color", i.e. "kinda light" with "good hair". These men don't consider that their children may not look anything like what they expect racially, that they may find it difficult to relate to sons who more closely resemble Wentworth Miller or "the man" than themselves. Though I feel for the children, I can't help but laugh at those who roll the dice and lose.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by southernelle25

These men don't consider that their children may not look anything like what they expect racially, that they may find it difficult to relate to sons who more closely resemble Wentworth Miller or "the man" than themselves.

Totally off-topic, but I feel that this is a good time as any to remind our readers at home how fine Wentworth Miller is.

[darling1]

That is a fine man..lol. I went to school with him and he was adorable then and very sweet.

[lovehaiku84]

Originally Posted by southernelle25

These men don't consider that their children may not look anything like what they expect racially, that they may find it difficult to relate to sons who more closely resemble Wentworth Miller or "the man" than themselves. Though I feel for the children, I can't help but laugh at those who roll the dice and lose.

Exactly. And on the other hand a lot of mixed kids come out looking full black with nappy hair. Bet they don't count on THAT happening. At any rate though, since black people are so mixed up in the first place it really is just a toss up when it comes to how your kids will look.

[Little32]

Originally Posted by darling1

That is a fine man..lol. I went to school with him and he was adorable then and very sweet.

I would just like to co-sign on Wentworth Miller's fineness.

[aopirose]

Originally Posted by Little32

I would just like to co-sign on Wentworth Miller's fineness.

Yes indeed.

[Jill1228]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Totally off-topic, but I feel that this is a good time as any to remind our readers at home how fine Wentworth Miller is.

Back off ladies, he is my next ex-husband! Yeah, he is hella fine

[IVY BEAUTY]

Originally Posted by Tyrese Turner

I like them light skinned honeys, you know what I'm sayin.

ok...........?????? :-)

[NappyBison]

*sigh*

[ms_gwyn]

You know..I just read Reaching Back and Reborn by Nea Simone and I just purchase Passin' by Karen Quinones Miller...that deals with this issue...

This whole subject is foreign to me and my family because it was never important to us and we are all shades.

But its still an issue in the community, which I think is a damn shame, esp. since Millions of blacks, "disappear" annually.

[Educatingblue]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

That annoys me too because ugly children can happen to anyone.

ROTFLMAO!!! You sound like one of those drug addiction commercials