Very unusual situation--transfer, junior, second rush

[texas*princess]

A few things came to mind while reading this thread:

1) Being a legacy does not guarantee you a bid anywhere, established house or not.

2) I don't think it's right to assume that the reason you were cut was because of your weight. Membership selection is between the actual sisters of the house and not for anyone else. (The whole "I wanted to believe that the sororities would look beyond my weight. I think that was probably naive." comment made me say this one) You will never know why you were cut so to dwell on it and think of reasons doesn't make sense.

3) Like someone already mentioned, just because a house is not "already established" does not mean they will bid every Sally, Susan and Sharon that walk through their doors. Colonies need more out of their membersthan established houses need because they are just getting off the ground and they need a solid group to start off with. For whatever reason (also membership selection, so no one outside their room would know) they didn't choose you.

4) No one on Greekchat can give you a statistical answer as to whether or not you have a shot at rush again. Technically, everyone has a shot - so long as they meet the minimum grade requirements any female, enrolled college student can rush, so yea, I'd say you do. If you decide to rush again, best of luck to you, if not, well then enjoy your new major and getting involved on that campus.

[gee_ess]

ditto what ISUKAPPA said. Big 12 schools have competitive greek systems and that is usually difficult for juniors.

Plus, I think you have to consider what it will feel like to be going through rush with your younger sister. What if it doesn't work out again? Can you be happy for her?

Sounds like you have made up your mind to transfer but can't decide whether or not to go through rush. On a big campus, there are lots of opportunities to shine other than Greek life. Do you think you can be content to be back on a busy campus and continue to be involved, social,etc but without a sorority? I think you sound like someone who could be.

By the way, I have read a lot of GC threads written by girls who had a disappointing rush, etc and your maturity and wise assessment of your situation is wonderful.