Rush - What to NOT do or say

[MTSUGURL]

Originally Posted by Zillini

If a PNM gets invited to a chapter she isn't interested, well all she has to do is not accept. Duh!

On my campus, you had to attend all parties you were invited back too unless your invites exceeded the number of parties you could attend. Not accepting an invitation wasn't an option if your number of invites was equal to or less than the number of parties you could go to. Not that this excuses rudeness - nothing does. I just wish I'd been able to slap a few of the girls in my recruitment group - their behavior made me embarrassed for them.

[MSKKG]

There is no excuse for rudeness, and one reason I've heard for it is that these PNMs either don't want to rush and are being coerced into it by their family or are only interested in a particular chapter. They want to put the "cutting" monkey on the "undesirable" chapters' backs so they can report to their moms that "the ABCs and XYZs cut me and I don't know why--guess I wasn't meant for sorority life/I'll have to join DEF." They are then victims of circumstance and not responsible for their decision to drop out completely or their decision to choose the GLO they want.