Cutting or pledging a group for dumb reasons

[GphiBGirl10]

I chose mine cause my mom told me that if i pleged any other sorority she would disown me (needless to say im a legacy)... just goes to show that mommy knows best cause i am so happy with gamma phi and i can't ever picture myself with anyone else

Originally Posted by GphiBGirl10

I chose mine cause my mom told me that if i pleged any other sorority she would disown me (needless to say im a legacy)... just goes to show that mommy knows best cause i am so happy with gamma phi and i can't ever picture myself with anyone else

If my mother said such a thing to me, I wouldn't even bother with the Greek system.

I feel sorry for any mother who feels the need to say such a thing to her daughter.

It's great that you found your home in Gamma Phi and you and your mom can share in that sisterhood. That's not always the case with other legacies. They shouldn't feel the need to be an XYZ just because [insert family member here] is an XYZ.

[SWTXBelle]

Now, she could have been kidding. I've always told my daughters they can go ahead and break my heart and pledge something other than Gamma Phi. They KNOW I'm kidding, and that above all else I want them to be happy. If they can be happy and be the third generation to wear the crescent, even better, of course.

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Now, she could have been kidding. I've always told my daughters they can go ahead and break my heart and pledge something other than Gamma Phi. They KNOW I'm kidding, and that above all else I want them to be happy. If they can be happy and be the third generation to wear the crescent, even better, of course.

Oh, I definitely know that. But I have seen rush threads over the years where PNMs have shared that "mom and grandma are XYZs and if I'm not an XYZ too they'll disown me!"

I've also seen threads where a parent will tell their PNM kid they can join whatever sorority they want, but if it's not theirs, they refuse to pay for dues.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by OTW

Oh, I definitely know that. But I have seen rush threads over the years where PNMs have shared that "mom and grandma are XYZs and if I'm not an XYZ too they'll disown me!"

I've also seen threads where a parent will tell their PNM kid they can join whatever sorority they want, but if it's not theirs, they refuse to pay for dues.

It's this kind of pressure that makes groups cutting legacies seems so harsh. The parents must not know what it's like these days and how many legacies get released.

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by GphiBGirl10

I chose mine cause my mom told me that if i pleged any other sorority she would disown me (needless to say im a legacy)... just goes to show that mommy knows best cause i am so happy with gamma phi and i can't ever picture myself with anyone else

I am glad you're happy with your choice... sometimes a legacy really fits with her legacy sorority.

One of my sisters (I'll call her "Rose") has an aunt who's an AEPhi. The aunt would only allow her daughters to apply to colleges that had an AEPhi chapter. None of the daughters actually joined AEPhi.

Meanwhile, Rose went to a school where there were four NPC chapters, none of them AEPhi. Long story short - she and six other Jewish women formed a local sorority, which I later pledged - and which is now a chapter of AEPhi.

Rose's aunt flew in for our AEPhi initiation.

[Scully]

Originally Posted by aephi alum

I am glad you're happy with your choice... sometimes a legacy really fits with her legacy sorority.

One of my sisters (I'll call her "Rose") has an aunt who's an AEPhi. The aunt would only allow her daughters to apply to colleges that had an AEPhi chapter. None of the daughters actually joined AEPhi.

Meanwhile, Rose went to a school where there were four NPC chapters, none of them AEPhi. Long story short - she and six other Jewish women formed a local sorority, which I later pledged - and which is now a chapter of AEPhi.

Rose's aunt flew in for our AEPhi initiation.

See how everything works out It was meant to be.